Feeling a bit down

[dasky]

Hey there was this girl that I met on vacation and she lives kinda close to me. We were hanging out and she said we should hang out sometime. I sent her a email about 3-4 days ago and have gotten no responce. How long should I wait until I message her again? Not sure what to do at this point but I really liked her and feeling kinda down that shes not responding.

[ATrueCarer]

The problem is is that the rate at which people check their e-mails varies drastically from person to person. I check mine daily, others check it every other day others weekly...you get the idea.

It's a relationship cliche' but you have to give her time. You've probably heard this before but its true, if you come across as too persistant she's going to think you have nothing better to do with your time (I know from experience sadly).

There could be quite a few reasons as to why she hasn't checked her mail recently. Just be patient and try to distract yourself from thinking about it too much.

[dasky]

Yea but I know for a fact that she checks it every 2 days or so....dont ask how I know I just know.

I really don't know whats going on and don't know what I should do from here!

[Beagle]

When we guys pass out our contact information, it's because we want to hook up with the person. Girls pass out their phone numbers and email addresses all the time. Sometimes, it's their way of getting out of a conversation for the moment.

I suspect this is a blow-off. Maybe the next one won't be. You did the right thing by contacting her. However, she obviously doesn't feel like you want her to, so best to drop it. Chalk it up as a good try.

[dasky]

That's really not what I wanted to hear...this is really making me feel depressed.

I don't like being ignored and if she just messaged me telling me why she doesn't wanna see me I would be fine with that. I'm really tempted to write her another message if she doesn't respond within my patient waiting time.

Maybe I'll go to her school and wait for her to leave so I can speak to her directly.

[Beagle]

I've been dating on and off for 30 years, and it's not easy is it? (It doesn't get any less complicated, either.)

I think I do have one advantage, when it comes to dating. I grew up breaking horses When you ride horses, you are going to get thrown occasionally, no matter how good you are. It is inevitable. If you date, you are going to like people who don't feel like you do.

You need to watch a rodeo. When a cowboy get's thrown, he gets up, dusts himself off, picks up his hat, and walks out of the arena with his head held high. That's all you can do in these situations. Things like this are inevitable if you date.

If she wanted to date you, she would have returned your message. You can't argue a girl into dating you. If you look like you're running after her, she will respect you less.

If you arrange a "chance" encounter, however.....

FYI, I went to high school and college with a girl that I tried every way to get somewhere with. It wasn't until after college that we hooked up. She approached me after I had long since given up. Sometimes, the answer isn't no; it's "Not right now."