what can i do with a girl that doesnt want a relationship but ive fallen for her?

[magicmike51093]

ok. well lets see im in 10th grade. theres this girl who just came from a different school and joined my public school last september. she became very popular. she knows a lot of guys and likes to flirt a lot. she doesnt want a relationship though. ive started to like her recently and its been on my mind a lot. i wanted to ask her out on friday to just talk but recently shes been acting a lot more quiet in class. i think its because of me. i was gonna ask her on valentines day but like a lot of my friends and her friends told me not to because she doenst want to be in this position. now im lost and in class its just awkward. i think she knows i like her but she says she doesnt think anything has changed or anything is awkward. but now shes ignoring me sometimes or just not talking as much. ive been with her to the movies with a group of our friends but we never talked. im going again with her an its going to be just 4 of us (2 guys 2 girls) the other girl happens to like my guy friend but he doesnt know. I'm kind of lost now on what to do... i dont even know if were friends anymore and i dont even know if i should tell her that ive liked her or ask her out. she just doenst like people to be needy and lets bad stuff pass by her. if anyone can help much appreciated and thx for reading all of this. im just really lost now

[Beagle]

The key is she doesn't want a relationship now. The best way to get some mileage is to forget about a relationship and invite her to do something fun with you. Get an ice cream, play a video game, feed the ducks in the park, ride bicycles, etc. Then you make your time together low-pressure and fun, and that is how interest develops. If you tell her you "like" her, and she's not ready to hear that, it will drive her away. This is the time to play it cool and help her enjoy herself.

[magicmike51093]

what if though she knows i like her though but she wont admit it? ive talked to her before talking about how its kinda wierd nowadays talking. but she said she didnt notice no change... btw thank u for replying and i would appreciate it a lot if u continue

[Beagle]

Believe it or not, one of the surest ways for passion/interest to blossom is just simple proximity. Keep doing what you're doing but sit just a little closer to her than you have been. Begin (non-sexual) touch, punches in the arm, play wrestle with her if she will, etc. Forget what she won't admit. Falling for someone is largely an unconscious process anyway. There's absolutely no mileage in going there. Just keep up the proximity and a little romantic tension, and it may blossom. That's how I've moved out of the friend zone, anyway. You see romances all the time that spring from friendships. This is how it happens.

You do have to "calibrate": to her. You have to study her body language and facial expressions to see if you're crowding her. If you move closer and she turns away or closes herself off then you're too close. If she's turned toward you and engaged, move just a little closer. Slow and steady wins the race. (If what I'm saying here is greek to you, you need to get a book on body language.)

[magicmike51093]

ya i dont think that will work.. its been downhill this past weekend. like we were all gonna go to the movies but she kept saying to us she didnt know if she was going. so it turned out shes going with 2 other guys and she wanted to meet with us to go... so like ya i just said forget about it...
now i think im just trying to ignore her now and see if she changes. like in class friday i was talking a lot more to my friends and i think she got jealous so she tried to talk to guys in our class more getting me jealous. i wasnt really jealous but i kinda saw she was trying to win me or something. iono.. what do u think?

[Beagle]

I think you're right. I think it's time to just move on and act like nothing every happened. Just be coolly friendly around her. (Think Rhett Butler in "Gone with the Wind."

[magicmike51093]

ive seen tht movie but dont remember him ill look him up. but thx for all the advice. if anything pops up ill make sure to tell u