For those of you that are willing to take the time to read this and reply I thank you in advance
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I am a youth care worker that works in a classroom setting. Last year this women came into my classroom to help support a child from her residence. She was new the city, and to the agency I work for. We chated throughout the day as the kids worked on there school work and this carried on about once a week for the following 4 or 5 weeks. She began to invite me to go see one of our clients baseball games with her. A couple times we took my dog for a walk. We talked about everything and hung out for hours at a time. Then all of the sudden things slowed right down, she got a new job and i began to work in a new job as well. Our hours were opposite and we then only hung out once in every 4-6 weeks. This lasted for the majority of the fall/winter, we would go on these safe friend dates and nothing would happen and I had got myself in the friend zone. I was okay with this, at the time.
Lately we have been seeing eachother alot more. I would say 6 times within the last 2 months. Throughout the last two months I have started to have strong feelings for her. The second last date was great we went and played pool, went out for coffee, took my dog for a walk. While playing pool we spent alot of time talking about everything, guys she has gone out with in last year since we met, a girl i was seeing (this felt very friend zone). At one point my phone kept ringing and it was this girl that really likes me but i do not share the feelings. My date and I began to talk about things I like in a girl, and I was almost just listing things about her. She began to ask me why I didnt like this girl, Questions along the lines of Do you think she is attractive? Is she boring? Is there a reason you dont want to date her? I was just thinking in my head, because I am intersted in someone else... you. We continues with our evening we went and had a coffee as we took my dog for a walk to the park then I drove her home. We talked about two guys that she went on dates with and things that were turn offs for her. 1) She told me she is so shy and she needs a guy not to be shy with her. Before she said this I wasnt at all, after she said this I began to over think things in my head. 2) She told me that one of the guys was balding and she found this un-attractive (We are both 23).
Now with most girls I am not shy but this girl just does something to me. Makes me nervous,shy, and anxious before i call her or see her. The date ended nicely we did not kiss, now i do not know how this is possible, usually I would have kissed any girl i was intersted in on date 1 or 2. At this point over the last year we had gone out atleast 12 times. As I drove away from her house, I was kicking myself in my ass because I did not kiss her goodnight or anything.
Our last date late last week, she text my cell saying she was having the worst day ever and that she needed to get out and do something. The entire night went very smooth we ate dinner, played some mini put, saw movie. Our conversation would lead me to believe she was looking for more then friendship but her body language was the opposite. During the movie and the drive home her arms were crossed, It didnt feel as we had as much chemistry as we had in previous nights. But Im keeping in mind that she has had a terrible day and just trying to give her a fun night because at this point we are friends and I care about her. Now we talked like non stop and were out for like 5 hours. So I am driving her home and it is looking like last time, so in my head im grasping at straws, part of me doesnt want to blow a friendship by trying to kiss her or anything, i poke her a couple times, trying to get her to uncross those arms. I drive up to her house and unlock the doors. She has a couple things of mine in her purse and stalls a few seconds before leaving the car. At this point my mind is racing, and I am like okay you gotta man up and as she got out of the car I called her back in, she was like what? I unbulked my seat belt leaned over and kissed her. She gave me the cutest smile i had ever seen I said good night and drove my car around the block where I needed to stop to let me nerves catch up with me. Two days after our date she flew to her friends wedding where she would be gone for the week, we text eachother several times the night after our date and I attempted to call her to say "goodbye" before she left but was only able to leave her a voice mail. Now here I am, she will be back at the beging of next week.
I am just thinking to myself about everything, I watched a couple video's by D&J and I figured I would ask everyone there thoughts. I am extremly nervous to see her, I am rarely nervous with girls. She just ties me up in knots. She comes back, I am not 100% sure if its mon or tues, I am sure she told me but I just dont remember which one it was. Now for the questions running through my head
Does she like me? (Hard one dont expect answers to this)
Do i give her a call monday night/tuesday night when she comes home? To eager?
I am not shy with other girls, how can I become less shy around her?
Does anyone have just any advice in general.
I really appreciate your time reading this and replying to this.
05-08-2009, 12:51 AM
Dan, Jen, & Everyone else please give me some insight to this situation.
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