complicated sex relationship

[Margaretsc]

I've been sleeping with a this guy for about a year. I like him a lot but he's in a constant on-again off-again relationship with a girl who's hundreds of miles away at college. He has always cheated on his girlfriends and I don't believe she knows that he's ever cheated on her. She has always hated me because she at least knows that we've had a little something in the past and I can't bring myself to feel guilty about sleeping with him. The things is, there on again and although it's never stopped me before I have been avoiding him for a couple weeks now because I want him to finally get over this girl and chase after me. We have always just had a casual sex relationship but I find myself wanting more than that but he doesnt know that. Has the damage been done, will he ever be something more with me? I don't know if its that I want him to want me or I really want him because of course I know he will most likely cheat on me and I definitely do not want to get hurt. So i guess my question really is, how do I get him to want me emotionally not just physically?

[Jasperky]

Make yourself unique. Is there something he's never done that you're willing to do?
Also, keep im off balance. Say you've got a surprise for him, or something. Can't think of any example, but keep putting it off for a moderate period-no less than two days, no more than a month, before revealing it Chances are, he'll be constantly thinking of you and the 'surprise', which should help.