Approach problem, and what to ask

[juvenille2001]

First of all I want to say that ya guys are the best, and Jennifer you are amazing. Now let's get back to my question. Everytime I see a cute girl I want to meet I always loose control in never approach. Sometime I get so nervous that you could hear my voice messing up. The only good thing is that onces I'm talking with her I get a little be better. I want to know how should I approach, and what question to ask. How can I boost my confidence. Thanks guys ya the best

[Dan And Jennifer]

Hi Juvenille,

Wow, thanks so much for the kind words, sorry for the delay getting back to you.

The most important thing here is strengthening your self confidence, accepting that you're cool and OK the way you are. Yeah it sounds cliche, but it's very true!

It sucks at first, but this really comes in it's own time as you get older and more experienced.

So, first thing you should do is get yourself comfortable around women. Talk to women, like real people - they are! - without actually wanting a date or anything. That's no pressure, since you have nothing you want from them, so nothing to lose, so no fear of screwing up.

Then accept that when you approach a woman, it's OK to get a "no". At any point there is a 75% chance of getting a "no" from a woman; she may be "taken", gay, depressed that day, or just not looking. It's not you!

Better yet, don't ask a question that could get you a "no". Here's a secret tip - when you approach her, talk about whatever, get her to help you with something, get to know her! Don't "make a move" on a girl you don't know, instead let her get to know you and get comfortable with you, and start doing stuff together. But don't let youself slip into the "friend zone" and become her "safe gay guy friend". It's OK to flirt and let her know you like her "that way".

And check out these videos, they should both be helpful for you...

How to Get Over Shyness & Fear of Rejection to Get the Girl

23 Year Old Virgin - How Can I Get A Woman Without Paying?