I am a divorced bisexual male and I am looking for a couple to swing with and I find it very hard for a male to get into this lifestyle.

What (and where) is the best way to meet couples that are interested in another male joining them in and out of bed?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 and a half years. We had been dating and 2 months later we found out that we were having a baby. At the time, I still wasnt over my ex boyfriend. But, I thought that because I was pregnant, that it was a sign that he must be the one for me. I dismissed the ex, and my feelings, but they keep coming back. Now we have our daughter who is 2 and a half, and I still have these reoccuring feelings for my ex. I have always felt that because he hasnt ever asked me to marry him, it was because he didnt want me to be his wife. I dont get along with his parents. Never have and I am scared that I never will get along with them. They dont recognize me at all. Even when I was living with them in their house. I have threatened to leave my boyfriend, because I feel like he puts me last on his list. When it comes to everyday living. I just think that we aren't compatible, and I think it is because we forced ourselves to stick together because we were having a baby. Now that I have this child, I have a guilt trip going on where I cant leave him, because I want her to have her mother and father in one home. We thought about counseling, but just never take that next step. To top it all off, he will only have sex with me about once a month. Trust me, I have kept a calendar showing the times that we do. I need sex, and it seems like he could care less. What do I do? Do I stay with him ? and try to make it work? Or do I leave him , and let him grow up and see what he wants? I am s confused. Please help!!!!

I'm a bi sexual male and love anal sex either with a partner or with a variety of sex toys. What is the best way to prepare for this? Is an anal doushe OK? If so what what seems to be the best? I like the feeling of being filled and recently purchased a John Holmes dildo. It is massive! How can I safely work up to something this huge?

Ive been with a man for 5 years. He has cheated on me in the passed 4 times that I know of... we decided to work things out. even though i still resent him for it when we fight. I met this guy at work we started chatting and over some time i fell in love with him, i didnt think it would lead to anything at first...but now i cant stop thinking of him. we all went out for drinks one night and i kissed him it was amazing!! but i felt too guilty the next day to actually enjoy the feeling! the guy im in a relationship with has now suddenly changed and is doing and saying all the right things, everything i wanted him to change he now has. I think he suspected something was up. Now Im so torn how do I decide which one I want. Obviously I cant go on like this I need to choose. On the one side the guy I am with is a good person and I love him. but this new man ive fallen for at work is just so enticing! i cant help myself... I live with the man im in a relationship with we have a lot of mutual friends it will be so akward/complicated to leave him. but how do I just let this guy go that I feelings for - when I speak to him I cant stop smiling. if a day goes passed that we dont speak I feel miserable and I miss him... can anyone please help me? I dont know what to do?

Ok so I am 20 years old and me and my girlfriend have just become sexual active now....she was a virgin before. But yea, she doesn't feel anything or i should say she feels "something" but nothing good at all...she says its only pleasurable for her sometimes. I eat her out and take my time kissing and rubbing her body. My size isnt an issue (or at least thats what she says: maybe i'm not big enough to please her??). So what is the problem? She thinks maybe it was because she was a virgin and the first couple of times aren't suppose to feel good? (But we've done it more than a couple times, more like 15 times) Is that a possibility? I really just want to please her...

Hi, I'm Jon and I'm 19 and in college, but there is this girl name laura and she is one of my friends. Well I like her but We go to two different colleges in Kenosha ,WI. I have her on face-book, but for some reason I get nervous even talking to her online. Is there a way that I can calmly talk to her and possibly get closer to her without that nervous factor playing a role.

thanks

I seek a long-term relationship and I seem to find men who do not have the same energy level or same level of interest in sex as I do. It's really starting to get me down. I don't want to resort to being too forward, and I realize people may lie. It's just got me so down that I've begun to wonder why even try meeting someone if my needs will not be met. It's an awful feeling to consistently ask for intimacy and feel like the other person is not as interested. Aren't there couples out there who are fulfilled in their relationships? How does one get there? Do you ask pointed questions? Or, does it just happen sometimes?

Me - above average looks, above average height, curvy, physically fit - intense workouts, grown children, 43 years young

I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years I am 22 and he is 25. He is always want to do different things in the bedroom which is fine we have toys and porn and magazine and we talk dirty and have our fantasys and all that good stuff but it is never enough for him. Now he wants me to mess with other people like me mess with a girl and him watch and even telling me he would not care if I messed with another guy. I know alot of couples have threesomes and I am not saying its wroing other people can do whatever they want but I do not want to do those things not mess with other people! I am not going that far. I have told him this and he then refuses to have sex with me and hurts my feelings by saying i never do anything different an worst of all he knows i want to marry him and he will says " i will marry you if you do this for." What is that all about!!! I think maybe he is tired of the same person..me? I mean he has been with me since he was 18 maybe he wants to try different things and is just to afraid to say that i do not know but when i ask him that he says no he loves me and my body and all that good stuff but why wheni tell him no he treats me bad!!!???

please help

I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years I am 22 and he is 25. He is always want to do different things in the bedroom which is fine we have toys and porn and magazine and we talk dirty and have our fantasys and all that good stuff but it is never enough for him. Now he wants me to mess with other people like me mess with a girl and him watch and even telling me he would not care if I messed with another guy. I know alot of couples have threesomes and I am not saying its wroing other people can do whatever they want but I do not want to do those things not mess with other people! I am not going that far. I have told him this and he then refuses to have sex with me and hurts my feelings by saying i never do anything different. I think maybe he is tired of the same person..me? I mean he has been with me since he was 18 maybe he wants to try different things and is just to afraid to say that i do not know but when i ask him that he says no he loves me and my body and all that good stuff but why wheni tell him no he treats me bad!!!???

pleas help

I have a large labia majora and during sex I have always had to stimulate myself in order to orgasm. My boyfriend asks why I can't orgasm without stimulating myself and truthfully I never have. I want to know if reaching an orgasm without stimulating myself is at all possible?

This question may sound a bit nieve and I am not, but, I have often wondered...My man likes to take it up his you know and it is always ready to easily take it. (I mean it glides in with ease) When he does stuff to me there, and not often, even with a lot of play it is not easy to stick stuff in. Why is his easy? Does he do things with men or did he just do this a lot with other women in the past like this? Any advice? I am not upset by this just puzzled?:confused:

I am a sophomore in high school. There is a girl in my german class who I am interested in. We have talked a little bit, and she finds some things that I say funny. Most converations start with a certain event happening that we both find humor in. We have discussed movies and TV shows sporadically, and even some politics. These are usually quite short conversations, because they are only in class. I really want to talk to her more, and am wondering how to start converations. What should I say when she walks in? She sits right behind me. I think that things like "how is your day going" are really corny, and neither of us are into small talk very much. I am currently browsing this online dating site but i would like to know if there are any other good sites that can help me sort my problems.

So I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years and she's been badgering me about living together & marriage.

I've told her that I will never get married even if hell freezes over. I told her I don't care if God Himself came down from heaven and appeared to me physically & told me to get married. It aint going to happen.

What is the result? she won't leave. She won't end the relationship. What should I do?

By the way I think it's better for a woman to complain about her boyfriend not wanting to move in with her than it is for her to complain about her boyfriend's living habits after they move in together.

That's why I'm not living with her. As long as I don't live with her she can't complain about my living habits.

I have even saw her browsing at online dating site several times with a guy and there is something cooking between them also.

Hi, I'm new to this site, but Ive found lots of the articles and readings to be quite informative so I thought I'd go ahead and ask my question...

Ok, so basically I'm in my senior year and have been single for the entirety of my life, this doesn't really bug me as I'm not the kind of person who really is into the whole branching out and exploring my "options". More so I guess you could say I'm more so the kinda guy who wants to fall in love with a person who I think that maybe one day I might have the chance of spending the rest of my life with them or sorta that 1 true love kinda deal. I've known this girl who is/has been one of my best friends for about 7 years now and like most best friends we have similar interests. I'm not really sure when this whole thing started, but I guess more and more I've found myself wanting to become more than just friends at times. I've been with her for a long time I'm of course quite comfortable hanging out with her and since we're both night owls who enjoy staying up I often tell her things on AIM that I won't tell anyone else like my dreams for the future and sort of feelings.

Whenever we're at school, I guess for the past year or so, I've always felt this odd sort of feeling of wanting just to hold her in my arms. I've seen her randomly accept hugs from some of our different friends and allow them to rest on her shoulder or back or something when we're sitting down or something. But when I tried this she sort of got... not mad and not creeped out, but more so... well let's just say she's really spazzy at times and I'm not sure if it's some sort of natural reaction but only on some occasions will we ever have physical contact (by accident mostly), one thing we've never done is hugged. Most of the time though it's her touching me as in poking me randomly or hitting me randomly which she doesn't really do with anyone else so I'm not sure if I should interpret that as me being a good person to physically abuse. I suppose I get jealous though or confused whenever I can't poke her back or hug her like my other friends especially my other best friend can.

During the night, like I mentioned before, I often tell her things I won't tell anyone else, and just rant whatever on her chat. We joked about it a few times and how I use her as a sort of diary or daily journal. Besides that though we both have an interest in watching anime with romantic/comedy being the one we mostly talk about. Whenever these talks come up we sort of joke around about love (not between ourselves) and pair up our friends with other friends and create random stories and jokes about our lives in a few years and being neighbors with our friends who we randomly decided got married... like I said... random stories...

So anyways if you read through all that you have a general idea of our relationship between each other... or more so MY relationship with her for the past 7 or so years... honestly I don't know what she thinks of me sometimes, maybe I'm blind or maybe I'm too hopeful (probably both). She's an irreplaceable friend who I do not want to lose, but at the same time she's someone who I want to be with more and more. We're seniors in high school right now. In about 5 months or so we'll be going to different colleges and we'll be making new friends. I don't know how far apart we'll be nor do I know how much contact we'll keep (hopefully a good amount). On top of that I'm applying for the Army ROTC program in college which will probably even further separate us eventually. This is basically the reason why I'm getting nervous... she's someone I don't want to lose and as graduation gets closer and closer, I'm afraid someone else out there might have feelings for her or she might have feelings for them...

Recently I read an article posted on this site which I saved to reread over and over... it tells me to wait, let our relationship mature and even if I'm rejected not to give up... it comforted me for a bit and I sort of agreed, but I feel like this article is assuming that I'll be within a few miles or cities of the one we love...

SO now thank you to the person or persons who read that T_T...
basically here is the question...

should I act upon my feelings... before it might possibly be too late (meaning act before graduation)?

I lot of times in a swinger's party the male is scared and can not get a erection with his wife in the same room and looking on etc. What can the wife do to ease the situation so that the whole party can go into... heat... like is the whole purpose of the party !!! .....Is there something that she can do ?......:confused: