My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 and a half years. We had been dating and 2 months later we found out that we were having a baby. At the time, I still wasnt over my ex boyfriend. But, I thought that because I was pregnant, that it was a sign that he must be the one for me. I dismissed the ex, and my feelings, but they keep coming back. Now we have our daughter who is 2 and a half, and I still have these reoccuring feelings for my ex. I have always felt that because he hasnt ever asked me to marry him, it was because he didnt want me to be his wife. I dont get along with his parents. Never have and I am scared that I never will get along with them. They dont recognize me at all. Even when I was living with them in their house. I have threatened to leave my boyfriend, because I feel like he puts me last on his list. When it comes to everyday living. I just think that we aren't compatible, and I think it is because we forced ourselves to stick together because we were having a baby. Now that I have this child, I have a guilt trip going on where I cant leave him, because I want her to have her mother and father in one home. We thought about counseling, but just never take that next step. To top it all off, he will only have sex with me about once a month. Trust me, I have kept a calendar showing the times that we do. I need sex, and it seems like he could care less. What do I do? Do I stay with him ? and try to make it work? Or do I leave him , and let him grow up and see what he wants? I am s confused. Please help!!!!

Hi, I'm Jon and I'm 19 and in college, but there is this girl name laura and she is one of my friends. Well I like her but We go to two different colleges in Kenosha ,WI. I have her on face-book, but for some reason I get nervous even talking to her online. Is there a way that I can calmly talk to her and possibly get closer to her without that nervous factor playing a role.

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I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years I am 22 and he is 25. He is always want to do different things in the bedroom which is fine we have toys and porn and magazine and we talk dirty and have our fantasys and all that good stuff but it is never enough for him. Now he wants me to mess with other people like me mess with a girl and him watch and even telling me he would not care if I messed with another guy. I know alot of couples have threesomes and I am not saying its wroing other people can do whatever they want but I do not want to do those things not mess with other people! I am not going that far. I have told him this and he then refuses to have sex with me and hurts my feelings by saying i never do anything different an worst of all he knows i want to marry him and he will says " i will marry you if you do this for." What is that all about!!! I think maybe he is tired of the same person..me? I mean he has been with me since he was 18 maybe he wants to try different things and is just to afraid to say that i do not know but when i ask him that he says no he loves me and my body and all that good stuff but why wheni tell him no he treats me bad!!!???

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I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years I am 22 and he is 25. He is always want to do different things in the bedroom which is fine we have toys and porn and magazine and we talk dirty and have our fantasys and all that good stuff but it is never enough for him. Now he wants me to mess with other people like me mess with a girl and him watch and even telling me he would not care if I messed with another guy. I know alot of couples have threesomes and I am not saying its wroing other people can do whatever they want but I do not want to do those things not mess with other people! I am not going that far. I have told him this and he then refuses to have sex with me and hurts my feelings by saying i never do anything different. I think maybe he is tired of the same person..me? I mean he has been with me since he was 18 maybe he wants to try different things and is just to afraid to say that i do not know but when i ask him that he says no he loves me and my body and all that good stuff but why wheni tell him no he treats me bad!!!???

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Hi i have been with my partner for 4 years we have a step son by me. Everything was fine till his mother started to get more in our lives, she always has to comment on how you look,what you eat,comes in our house and starts going throw thing like our mail box or kitchen. Tells her son how fat he is in front of his mates...etc...she has been separated for many years now, and she always black mails my partner that he is all she has. She baby's him but she users him to get what she wants all the time.
He feels bad when he stands up to her and when she put shit one him he apologizes. she has told him to get a prenuptial agreement if we were to get married. She didn't even want to sit there and talk to my family at my son birthday which was just family over she went in the other room and turned the tv on. So i told her that was so rude and i could take it any more but now it has just made it worse for me and my partner doesn't stand up for our relationship when it comes to her.

So here is the background…. My wife and I have been in the LS for about 2 years. Things were going very very good up until about 3 weeks ago. I am currently in Iraq, and we agreed that we would not play alone while separated like this. So a few weeks back she tells me that she wants to have sex with a dude she met only 2 other times before. We live in a very small town and our main rule has been to NEVER play close to home. So after a much discussion we agreed that it was a bad idea, but I know that she didn’t agree with total confidence because she still really wants to play alone. The next day she told me about this, they went to this guys house for a Halloween after party and she ended up just staying at his house and slept in his bed. She said she had a shirt on, but had a thong and she is sure that he saw it and she admitted that she liked the whole thing. After she told me all these things, I got mad and we talked in depth about it and we were over it. However, the very next weekend, she goes out 2 nights in a row and I got upset again because she would leave our kids at the house (10,6,3) and walk down the street to the bar and be there till closing. It’s not that far, and the 2 older kids could call and she would be there within moments, so I told her that if she was ok with it, then ok, have fun. There is more to this portion though. My wife has lost a lot of weight and I am super happy for her because of it… she now has much more self confidence to go out and be more social. My problem with the whole thing, was that up until 3 weeks ago, she never really wanted to go out and do much. But now all of a sudden she is making plans for every weekend to go out and party it up. So this last weekend she went out again and we had another fight because I told her that I thought she was going out too much…. Only to find out that she has many other issues with me as well. One of which is she thought that I asked WAY too many questions about where she was going, what she was doing and so forth. I will admit those are the traits of someone controlling, but I really thought it was just something that an open and honest married couple should/would do without hesitation. I guess I thought that if she had nothing to hide, then its no big deal. So we get through those 2 weekends and had huge fights, and got over it. Now this leads us up to nov. 13 and nov 14. On the 12th, she had arranged for my sister to watch our kids and she didn’t tell me anything about it until the morning of the 14th when I asked if she had big plans for the weekend. However, on the 13th (Thursday), she felt like going to the bar to have a few drinks anyway, even though she was going out ALL night the very next night. I didn’t know until just about 30 mins ago that she made the arrangements for my sister to watch the kids all night and that she would be home the next day. So what happened last night??? I wish I knew…. I chatted with my sister asking how the kids were last night, and she replied they were good as always and that they are putting a puzzle together right now. So that was the first hint that I got that she wasn’t even home yet. So I called her and acted as though I didn’t know she was not at home, and she answered the phone with the biggest hang over I have ever heard her have. Then she tells me that she is at that guys house once again… and btw.. she slept in the same bed with him.. AGAIN!!! So then I asked her if anything happened, and she snapped back with NO, I’m still dressed. The last thing she told me was that she doesn’t even remember getting to where she is sleeping…. I told her to msg me when she got up and I would call her again.

So here is my problem… my wife goes from being semi social to a complete social butterfly, sleeps in a bed with a dude that we argued about twice (the one she said she wanted to have sex with but says nothing happened), got so drunk she doesn’t remember what happened, and I feel like shit because I have no idea who my wife is anymore. I can’t ask her tons of questions, because then she will think that I am integrating her or that I don’t trust her. I do trust her, however she is making it harder for me right now because of her actions. I made a comment to her during one of our arguments about her wanting to live the “single life” knowing that she is married though. By that, I meant that she wanted to be able to go out and do whatever, whenever, and with whomever she wanted to, and not have to tell me about all the details. She told me that she got hurt by those remarks because she doesn’t want to live the single life as I put it. However, I would like to know if these actions reflect the single life in anyone else’s view. I am so sadden by her actions, that I truly have no idea what to do!!! She tells me many many times that she loves me and doesn’t want to hurt me, however her actions don’t reflect what she tells me. Ultimately, she made it seem that there was an ultimatum on the table… she wants the freedom to do what she wants without any questions at all… or I think that she will just up and leave all together! I feel as though I am backed into a corner, because if she feels this way, then I have no way that I will be able to change her mind.

Any advice or thoughts from other would be greatly appreciated!!! If there are other questions that anyone wants to ask… pls do so!

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So here's the thing. Me and my ex dated in the past. Like about a year ago. We got back together about 4 days ago. So far i feel like its been going good but at the same time i'm not too sure of him either. Because last year, he was a dick to me, and this year he begged me to take him back. He had this really old reputation, of being known as a player, and im not sure if he still is a player or if he changed. For some reason, I feel like he changed, because he's not acting the same way. And, he apologized for being a dick and all of that, and we talked about his past, and I asked him serious questions and he didn't lie about the answers. But, my friends hate him, because they still assume he's the same person and will be through the rest of his life cause of his old reputation, and they wont talk to me. They say he's just using me for sex . But I don't know and I'm not sure. I been worrying like everyday thinking what his real intentions are. Whenever we're together, he looks me in the eyes, tells me he loves me and that he's in love with me. and that he's not the same person he was and he'll never do all that bullshit again and he's done with it. He says he wants to be with me, and wants a commitment and relationship. He told me that through the past year that we haven't been even close, he was in love with me up until now. He holds my hand in public, he hugs me, gives me soft kisses. And I told him I want to go slow, and he says he respects me and my decisions. He does anything i tell him to, and runs after me if i walk away. He's always apologizing if I ever bring up the fact that he was a dick last year. He says he lost the sight of what was important but now he won't fuck it up again. He's very affectionate with me, and tells me he loves me like every 5 minutes whenever we talk or text. So far we been hanging out a lot. Oh and I also told him that he has to wait at least 6 months if I want to have sex. And he said as long as I want to he'll do anything. And he said he won't do anything unless I want to do anything. And he said he just wants me to be happy, and whatever makes me happy he'll do it.
I don't know how to know for sure he means all of this? or if he's just being the same person he was? Help meee. =/

I've meet a really cool girl in one of my classes at my college. She definitely likes me and thinks I'm a good guy, but I'm unsure if she has a boyfriend or anything, or if she has any real interest in me. My best guess is that she doesn't have a boyfriend-but really don't know. How should I ask her out? Should I ask if she would like to get dinner sometime? or if she would like to hang out sometime? Also when is the best time to ask her? Should I start a conversation with her after class, walk out to our cars, then ask? Any advice?

about 2-3 weeks ago I met a girl and we do have a lot in common but the feeling just isnt right for us to go past a basic friendship relationship. I feel since that we have been hanging out a lot that I may be leading her on. I don't know how I am supposed to break it to her, because she is a nice person and if it hurts her im going to feel bad about it. I am supposed to be cooking for her later today "as a friend", but I just don't know what to do.

Any suggestions would be appreciated,

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my boyfriend of 1 month and 3 weeks said that he loves me for the first time. how do i know if i love him? i love being around him and everything about him but how do i really know if its love? :confused:

I am really confused, how to let her know that I need her. We have been talking so freely for example we discussed about my another cousin that how will she manage her pregnancy? as she married so early.. & also about boyfriends or girlfriends.. so u can understand that how free we are with each-other but when it comes to me and her I don't know from where to start I want her to want me If not that then, How can I manage this? Please help me out in this situation. Please.. Waiting in anticipation.

About a month and a half ago me and my girlfriend got into a fight because I would always want to go out and she never wants to go any where. She lives with her parents and we were over her parents house. It eventually got to me that she never wanted to go out so I said in front of her and and her parents either we are going out or I am leaving by myself. It turned out to be I ended up leaving by myself. I use to work with her parents and her mom told me not to work with them anymore because she felt I was doing it just to do it because I had nothing else to do when I was really busting my ass helping out in their buisness. They wouldn't give me a steady pay check or nothing just pay me every so often and I didn't mind it because I was actually doing something I enjoyed. A week after her parents loose her dog and I got blamed for the lost of the dog because the dog ran outside and I went picked it up and put it inside the house but when I left the house the dog was no where to be found so I got blamed. After all this I have so much anger in me towards her parents that I even refuse to go to her house. I won't say anything unless I am told something. I use to go to my girlfriends house every day and now I don't even bother going. I just have so much anger inside of me towards her parents. Her mother is even starting to say that I hate her. I do not hate her but I just have so much anger inside of me towards them.

Hi I've been with my Boyfriend for 6 Weeks today and it's gone brilliant apart from the distance but that doesn't matter to us 2 but what I need the advice on is that through our 6 happy weeks of being together he things I'm spoiling him too much and he can't do the same back but I'm saying no what should I do as if i carry on doing what I'm doing I might loose him and he is the best thing what as ever happened to me since my last split but he means more than life itself please he is the love of my life What should I do

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I really don't know what to do anymore... I loved this girl for a long time and we were in a long distance relationship... and When I came to her on her birthday.. that night I ddnt know that she was really serious about having sex with me... I was just riding her jokes on the phone and I kept on saying yeah sure... and we went all out on those kinds of jokes and I really thought it was just a joke... I kept on telling her I never had a first kiss and everything I gave her all my secrets about being a virgie and all... anyways back to the point.. I was so insecure about her past and how would I compare to her past boyfriends about that kind of thing and I was so worried that she might be making a fool out of me... and I ddn't believe myself with that awful thought and guess what I was RIGHT!!... she was making a fool out of me and I promised her everythng that I would never leave her no matter what happens and all that... and in the middle of our LDR(long distance relationship) she kept on kuddling me through the phone... and saying how lucky she is for having me as her boyfriend... cause I'm loyal and all that... but seriously I never did look at other women other than her... (even though it's an LDR but you get the point) she took advantage of my emotional development I'm still 16 and she's older like 18 and that night on her birthday... when everybody was gone and I had to spend the night at her house there was no room so we slept together and I really didn't expect that she was serious about us having sex... and after that night.. After she took my virginity... and my first kiss I went home the next day in the afternoon... and we we're still cuddling on the phone and then... she confessed that she was still with her boyfriend whom I thought was her ex.. but I guess not... during our 1-5th month as a couple... she was still with him... and I asked... were you two still having sex at that time and she said the magic word.. "Yes" and I started to cry on the phone... and I told her a joke that "Wow I didn't know I had that ability to seduce and steal women from other men.." but in reality I was really hurt... and after one week of suffering I finally had the strength to let go... and then after that week she texted me saying she's carrying my child... then she started comparing me with the others saying "your just like them now I know what you are..." I can't concentrate on the things I need to concentrate on... please did I do wrong on the decision that I made?? she did one time abortion with someone else's kid... so why can't she do it again? :confused: I am really hurting right now my conscience is not clear... SHE WAS STILL HAVING SEX WITH HER EX-GUY.. IN THE MIDDLE OF OUR LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP...SO I LEFT HER AND AFTER ONE WEEK OF THE BREAKUP SHE TEXTED ME AND SHE SAID SHE'S PREGNANT WITH MY CHILD (CAUSE I PROMISED HER THAT I WOULD COME TO HER BIRTHDAY AND I HAD TO SPEND THE NIGHT THERE CAUSE THERE.. AS WE WE'RE LYING ON THE BED TOGETHER I was ALREADY SLEEPING AND OUT OF NOWHERE SHE STARTED KISSING ME AND WE HAD SEX I SERIOUSLY DID NOT KNOW SHE WAS SERIOUS ABOUT HER SO CALLED JOKES ON THE PHONE) IN THE FIRST PLACE THIS IS WHAT I WAS SO WORRIED ABOUT AND I SHOULD'VE TRUSTED MY INSTINCTS... :(:(

here's the story in a nutshell.

been seeing a girl for three years. the problem is that she still lives with her ex boyfriend. they have separate rooms and she claims that they have not had sex since he left the bedroom 3 1/2 years ago.

they also own a small business together. he won't move out. she is basically his mother. she has to do everything for him.

she never stays overnight at my place. after every evening out together, i have to take her back to their place. it's a rental.

am i a schmuck for still wanting to see her? she won't tell the guy to move on and he won't do it himself.