I have been in a relationship with a very nice guy for 3 moths. It was all fine, and slowly we started developing really deep feelings for each other. And all of the sudden, when these deeper feeling started to rize, he wanted to step back. He now wants to be only friends, while I naturally would like to continue with the relationship.
So today, we finally met, discussed these matters in a civilised way and finally split. He does not want a relationship, saying that his work and family (he is divorced and has 4 kids) are too demanding and that he has no time for a relationship - even though he loves me. I personally think that he is afraid of love.
My questions are, how do you really break up in this kind of situation? I personally think that friendship is impossible since I have feelings for him, and I just cant imagine bahaving as a freind with him, while I want to be huged and hug him, and not to mention that we were sexually intimate too. It really hurts badly and I really long to see him...Still I think that we should stop any contact for some time.LIke if I now go back into freindly terms with him, it will be all mixed up - I fear...and I fear it may even get worse than this. BUt I might not be right.What do you think about this? Do you have any expereince with these kind of break ups....he is really a great person, a nice guy, and it is probably the first time I broke up with someone in such a loving, respectfull way. Not to mention that he loves me.
Beside this, I am in kind of trouble, because he was supposed to help me with my diploma work (checking my English) and I do not really know any other native speaker to help me with that. He would be happy to help me with this, but I am not sure it it is a good idea once we broke up under these conditions. ON the other hand I really need help with my diploma work. ( I know my English is good, but trust me my writing needs a good proof reading - so I can sleeep peacefully) What do you think about this, what should I do? Should I accept his offer to help me? Maybe we could do it trough emails?
Now one more thing to clarify is that both my ex and I know that I want to have kids and family and he does not. We knew this from the begging and discussed it every 2 weeks. Still we decided to be together because it felt right to do, and did good to both, and I absolutely do not redgret it. It naturally hurts now But I guess I will overcome it by time. Anyway, maybe that is why he is afraid to get emotionally very involved on a more deep level, since it smells like ending sonner of later?
Please send me you opinion and if possible your reasons too.
I am so confused!

So I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years and she's been badgering me about living together & marriage.

I've told her that I will never get married even if hell freezes over. I told her I don't care if God Himself came down from heaven and appeared to me physically & told me to get married. It aint going to happen.

What is the result? she won't leave. She won't end the relationship. What should I do?

By the way I think it's better for a woman to complain about her boyfriend not wanting to move in with her than it is for her to complain about her boyfriend's living habits after they move in together.

That's why I'm not living with her. As long as I don't live with her she can't complain about my living habits.

I have even saw her browsing at online dating site several times with a guy and there is something cooking between them also.

Me and my bf have been together for about 9 months now. Ive been debating weather or not to break up with him. These are the reasons why:

-he tends to embarrass me in public
-he voices his opinion too much(loudly)
-he thinks he has to prove how intelligent he is, he tries to act smart when he's not and assume he is right. (tries to prove others wrong)
-i debate weather or not to invite him to group get togethers
-he's loud sometimes
-i get embarassed and people look at us
There are a couple others.

but when its just me and him alone its fine. PLEASE HELP ME!! WHAT DO I DO??

Confused in Canada

And he has been unemployed for the last ten months, claims he is attempting to find a job, but I know he's not. I have seen no evidence that he is looking for work. He has not gone to any job fairs, has not spoken of any specific companies and/or positions he has applied for, let alone gone on any interviews. He is currently on unemployment. I know he is waiting for his unemployment to run out, so that he can apply for Social Security (He's 61, I'm 36), move out of his apartment and then move in with me, still drive his fancy Jaguar, wear his fancy designer clothes, and expect me to foot the bill! He isn't looking for a job for himself, but yet has the gall to show me some ads and tell me they look like good second jobs for me! Hey, honey, since when did my career choices become your decision, when you can't even take responsibility for your own? How am I going to have a life if I work two jobs? I already work a full-time, come home to take care of a house, a yard, two cats and myself, and find it stressful at times. He makes comments like, "I knew you were a rich girl. Why don't you send some of that money my way 'cause I'm unemployed." He has said this line so many times, it's no longer a joke to me. He thinks I have money because I am young and working. I may work at a bank, but that doesn't mean I am the bank. I need to break up with this guy. I know he is with me for all the wrong reasons. I am young and still desire marriage and kids. He is divorced, has a daughter who is 28 years old, and thinks kids are "brats". To me, kids are kids, not brats. He has the attitude of "Been there, done that". For me it's, "Wants to be there, wants to do that", but certainly not with this guy. The decision is "Do I want to be possibly changing an old man's diapers in a few years, or do I want to be changing my little baby's diapers in a few years?" I choose the latter. It's much easier and much more enjoyable. How do I tell this guy I want to break it off permanently with him?