Hi, I'm new to this site, but Ive found lots of the articles and readings to be quite informative so I thought I'd go ahead and ask my question...

Ok, so basically I'm in my senior year and have been single for the entirety of my life, this doesn't really bug me as I'm not the kind of person who really is into the whole branching out and exploring my "options". More so I guess you could say I'm more so the kinda guy who wants to fall in love with a person who I think that maybe one day I might have the chance of spending the rest of my life with them or sorta that 1 true love kinda deal. I've known this girl who is/has been one of my best friends for about 7 years now and like most best friends we have similar interests. I'm not really sure when this whole thing started, but I guess more and more I've found myself wanting to become more than just friends at times. I've been with her for a long time I'm of course quite comfortable hanging out with her and since we're both night owls who enjoy staying up I often tell her things on AIM that I won't tell anyone else like my dreams for the future and sort of feelings.

Whenever we're at school, I guess for the past year or so, I've always felt this odd sort of feeling of wanting just to hold her in my arms. I've seen her randomly accept hugs from some of our different friends and allow them to rest on her shoulder or back or something when we're sitting down or something. But when I tried this she sort of got... not mad and not creeped out, but more so... well let's just say she's really spazzy at times and I'm not sure if it's some sort of natural reaction but only on some occasions will we ever have physical contact (by accident mostly), one thing we've never done is hugged. Most of the time though it's her touching me as in poking me randomly or hitting me randomly which she doesn't really do with anyone else so I'm not sure if I should interpret that as me being a good person to physically abuse. I suppose I get jealous though or confused whenever I can't poke her back or hug her like my other friends especially my other best friend can.

During the night, like I mentioned before, I often tell her things I won't tell anyone else, and just rant whatever on her chat. We joked about it a few times and how I use her as a sort of diary or daily journal. Besides that though we both have an interest in watching anime with romantic/comedy being the one we mostly talk about. Whenever these talks come up we sort of joke around about love (not between ourselves) and pair up our friends with other friends and create random stories and jokes about our lives in a few years and being neighbors with our friends who we randomly decided got married... like I said... random stories...

So anyways if you read through all that you have a general idea of our relationship between each other... or more so MY relationship with her for the past 7 or so years... honestly I don't know what she thinks of me sometimes, maybe I'm blind or maybe I'm too hopeful (probably both). She's an irreplaceable friend who I do not want to lose, but at the same time she's someone who I want to be with more and more. We're seniors in high school right now. In about 5 months or so we'll be going to different colleges and we'll be making new friends. I don't know how far apart we'll be nor do I know how much contact we'll keep (hopefully a good amount). On top of that I'm applying for the Army ROTC program in college which will probably even further separate us eventually. This is basically the reason why I'm getting nervous... she's someone I don't want to lose and as graduation gets closer and closer, I'm afraid someone else out there might have feelings for her or she might have feelings for them...

Recently I read an article posted on this site which I saved to reread over and over... it tells me to wait, let our relationship mature and even if I'm rejected not to give up... it comforted me for a bit and I sort of agreed, but I feel like this article is assuming that I'll be within a few miles or cities of the one we love...

SO now thank you to the person or persons who read that T_T...
basically here is the question...

should I act upon my feelings... before it might possibly be too late (meaning act before graduation)?

I don't know what category this falls under but here it goes.
I was with my girlfriend for about 2 years happy and in love with each other. After a while in the summer she seemed to drift away from me no matter how hard i tried to pull her back. In September she said she wanted to go on a break but that she still loves me and promises we will be together in the future.

Now i thought to myself maybe she just needs her own personal space but i found out that during the summer she made a new friend who came over on a student visa, this friend started hanging out with her more often in September. He is at her house for hours and is called over when her mom is gone too. She assures me that nothing is going on and that she loves me and still needs me in her life but just cant be with anyone right now.

There is no actual evidence but all my friends say "the break" is just a way to legitimize cheating with someone and that she is probably just fooling around with this guy before he goes back out of the country and that i have become the backup guy for when she is alone again.

Nothing adds up. Am i paranoid, overreacting, jealous; or am i really being put on hold as an emergency rebound for when she decides shes done playing around with this other guy?

Hi all!

I met a very nice guy about half a year ago and we started going out as friends. We saw each other 2 or 3 times a week over the summer, went to the park, had dinners, lunches, told each other about our lives etc. basically had a great time. I fell quite badly for him.

He, however, didn’t fall for me that badly. He definitely seemed attracted to me and we get on fantastically well but when I made my feelings clear he told me that he just wanted to be friends and that at the moment he wants to concentrate on his job and was not looking for a relationship. To add to the problem (or the solution…) I have now moved abroad for work.

When we met I knew I was taking up a new job abroad and was very open about it from the outset.

He has always been very sweet but quite clear that he wanted to be friends and nothing more but my brain doesn’t seem to accept it. Even to the last day when we went for lunch before I left, we had a great time and I told him I still had a crush on him. He told that I will surely meet someone abroad and I said well, I’m sure I will but I wish it was you!

On the other hand we use to get on so well that when I said, as a joke, “oh you could come and live in the country I’m moving to” he replied “hey why not!” and said he’d always wanted to work abroad etc.

Now I’m in my new city I really love it but I still horribly long for him and want to speak to him all the time. I moved away a couple of weeks ago and I constantly think about him. I have fantasies that he’s going to move here and that he will realise I’m the woman of his dreams (yeah I know… :() Every time I do something new or see something weird I want to share it with him.

I am actually physically restraining myself from emailing/ texting him every day (ok, I have texted him twice and emailed once in the last 2 weeks but have promised myself not to call him until at least next Friday) He’s not yet replied to any of these texts/email and I know part of it is because he wants me to move on a bit.

So really my question is this, how do I get him out of my mind? I really do not want to lose him as a friend as he’s a really lovely person but I do want to move on emotionally. Shall I set myself a time not to have any contacts with him (2 weeks/1 month)? Will the feelings just diminish with time? It’s really, really hard!

Oh it probably doesn't really matter in the story but I'm 31 (and should probably know better than having irrational crushes!!)

Thanks for your help!

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hi me and my girlfriend are virgins the thing is i really love her to bits but she has had no sex ed as far as i can tell i talk to her mum about this and her mum said she has tried to educate her but she whats nothing to do with it iv try educating her and had a bit of luck she has a low self asteam and look at her self but she really beautiful. she also thinks sex is gross but think thats just because she has had no education or expearance i would really like to show her whats she is missing any help would be great thanks please email me at jasontaylor106@hotmail.com :)

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One of the most common private inquiries I get is from guys who are being relegated to the "Friend zone" by girls. The other day, I happened to pick up a book that I think was excellent. The book was No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover. The book was recommended to me, and I will say I found it to be excellent. My first thought was "This is going to be a book on how to be a jerk." Nothing was further from the truth. I wish this book had of been around when I was younger and falling all over myself trying to please women. He gives a perfect description of me when I was a young man.

I can relate to a lot of this, because I was something of a "nice guy" and I got my heart stomped on frequently, by women who considered me a "friend" to whom they complained about their jerk boyfriends. I realize now, how my Nice Guy syndrome was the cause. A lot of the stuff in this book is things I figured out myself through trail and error. As I was reading it, I thought "Boy, I wish I had of had this twenty years ago." It deserves a read.

Here is an excerpt that I found especially applicable: (I kept expecting to see a picture of my 22-year-old self beside it.):

I support myself through my psychology practice, and I have absolutely no connection to the author except that I obtained his permission to quote him and link to his website. I just thought it might help someone, which is the only reason I'm here.

The website for the author and book is No More Mr. Nice Guy

It's also available at Amazon.com: No More Mr. Nice Guy! (9780762415335): Robert A. Glover: Books

If you read this book, please post and let me know what you think.