I'm just wondering if anyone might happen to have any suggestions as to how I can properly develop that romantic bad boy image that women tend to love but without going too far with it all.

What I am trying to do is kind of pattern myself after some of the main characters that you might read about in a romance novel and I'm trying to develop the languaging to go with it as well.

I would particularly like to hear from the ladies as they tend to be the ones that read that type of stuff the most often, but if there are any guys that know how to do it properly then I wouldn't mind hearing from them.

Basically what I am trying to do is to make up for a failed relationship that I had with a woman that I knew in 1987. I tend to blame myself for what happened with it because the girl once asked me to change. I know however from studying seduction and attraction that women love that romantic bad boy type for some reason and I'm pretty sure that was what attratcted the girl that I knew back then as at that time I was very heavy in the heavy metal scene and had the long hair and all that stuff.

I however do not want to overdo it either. I'm trying to find that perfect blend between romantic bad boy and nice guy.

Does anyone happen to have any suggestions as to how I can better address this issue?

So, like the title says, I'm in a "Should I or shouldn't I" situation.

In the last month or so I've begun to see one of my friends in a slightly different light. We've been friends for some years now, so this is a very personally delicate matter. I'm just really really torn on whether or not it would be a good idea.

First of all, though, I think a little background information will help.

Probably one of my main problems is that I'm a very analytical person , I think about things a lot before acting on them, in a lot of cases to my dismay. I'm also a very socially reserved person, and am definitely not one to initiate things. I'm very into Psychology and knowing how things work (and I'd probably get into all that, but I think that would be counter productive), so there's a lot of psychological factors that I think might be playing a role in how I feel right now.

I just got out of a two year relationship a couple months ago. She also just got out of a pretty long relationship. Now, knowing the kind of person she is I'm a little afraid that it might be still too early for her to be engaging in a new relationship. But as for me, I'm a very physical person and I get pretty lonely quite quickly when I'm not in a relationship (at least when I don't have anyone that I can be physically close with).

So the core of my dilemma is that I want to start another relationship but I absolutely do not want to wreck our friendship because that alone means so much to me.

So my question is. Do I ask my friend out and possibly risk an amazing friendship, or do I wait until there is someone else (which could be a very long time).

Alright...so today in my class there were some guys talking about sex and I was listening to them and one of them came up with something looking like this : I was having sex with my girlfriend and when I did my last shot it torn and it was bleeding and hurting a lot....So yeah I'm wondering why and what did that because it does'nt seem really nice. My second question is if theres a way to avoid blushing because I'm really sick of it and it's embarrassing.

I've meet a really cool girl in one of my classes at my college. She definitely likes me and thinks I'm a good guy, but I'm unsure if she has a boyfriend or anything, or if she has any real interest in me. My best guess is that she doesn't have a boyfriend-but really don't know. How should I ask her out? Should I ask if she would like to get dinner sometime? or if she would like to hang out sometime? or if she would like to do something sometime? Also when is the best time to ask her? Should I start a conversation with her after class, walk out to our cars, then ask? Any advice?

Hi everyone. I took a break from posting here a couple months ago because I was going through some problems. I'm feeling better now and wanted some insight on the story I'm about to tell.

During my absence, one of the actions I took was sign up for an online dating website. It's a free website so that's what got me into it. Also, before I took a break, somebody from here suggested that website to me so that's why I went with it (it may have been Jenn but I'm not entirely sure). Anyways, after a few days of signing up for that site, I decided to fork over a little bit of cash (about $30 US) to gain a so called "VIP" status. Well, I must say that it paid off because shortly after that, I received a message from a lady who said she was interested in me. We've messaged each other back and forth for the past week and even talked on the phone as well. She said that she really wanted to meet me and I agreed to it. We haven't set up a date/time yet but I want to try to get that done some time this month. It all sounds like it's going well up to this point, right? Now comes the problems.

Despite the fact that we live in the same state (which is Michigan), we have a SIX HOUR driving distance between us. Another problem is that she doesn't have a car, she doesn't even have a license. It's not because she's not old enough to drive yet but it's because she has a vision problem that prevents her from being able to drive. She has been unemployed for the past few months. I haven't been in any relationships in my life but she has been in several. All of them resulted in her receiving pain from her so-called boyfriends. The most recent breakup, which happened last year for her, was the worst for her because she was supposed to be engaged to this guy and that ended up not happening. She has been in some severe emotional pain since.

I'm not holding any of these factors against her. In fact, I appreciate the fact that she was so willing to share all this with me despite only talking with each other for a week. I wouldn't think it would have been so easy to say all this to someone she only just got to know. She said she's interested in meeting me and I feel the same way about her so the long drive won't be a huge issue.

The reason why I'm posting this is because I wanted to see if anybody here is either currently in or has been in a relationship with someone they've met on the internet. If so, do you have any word of advice for me? For everyone else reading this, is there anything I should be aware of before I decide to hit the road?

I'm somebody who has grown up and lived in the cities almost my entire life. She, on the other hand, has spent most of her life in a very small town. She says it's quite a boring place and when I asked her what there is to do for entertainment, she just mentioned the bars (lol).

I also mentioned to her that, because Michigan gets lots of snow, that I would not make the drive up there during the snow season (Dec, Jan, and Feb) and she was understanding of that.

Thanks in advance!



P.S. I missed this site while I was gone.

The first date was pretty extravogent, went ot a big headline concert in a big city far away and ate at a nice restaurant. I now feel I have to be able to match that or outdo it for future dates. But i'm sure it would be fine if I didn't. Anyway, what are some good, simple date ideas for a small town? Doess just taking her out to subway and talking then parting ways even count as a date? Or is just spending as much time with her, without crowding her, as I can enough to show that I like her and want to enhance our relationship?

If gifting makes you seem too eager for attention or what not on the first few dates, when is it ok to give her something? I'm not talking jewelry or anything but, rather flowers, candy, or something light like that.

Also, what, besides those listed, are good gifts to give a girl you're newly dating?

Her's my situation: I've taken this girl out once to a concert, we talked a lot and really clicked, unfortunately I never made a move at the end of the night, which was already late, to ask for her number or if she'd like to go out again. We both have a few classes together and make small talk between classes when we cross paths on campus. She lives close to me and we have made plans for her and her female housemates to come over and watch a new DVD at my place.

I would like to turn that into dinner and a movie but, I'm shy about asking her directly. So here is what I proposse: I'll buy that DVD when it comes out, place a hand written not inside the case asking her if she would like to turn tha movie night into dinner and a movie, include my number which she does not have, and place the DVD case under her winshield wiper either at school or at her house, we usually park by each other anyway. I would take her out to dinner, then get all the girls that are coming over, take them for dessert at DQ, then to my place for the movie.

Would this be a good way to serve my purpose? It's out of the ordinary and original. Or would this be too awkward for pursuing only the second date?

21 years old never had girlfriend do lack confidence trouble is i get on with girls really well but suffer from loneliness and have done for most of my life wat do i do

I am curious when you first start dating someone and getting to know them, and you don't want it to be a one night stand or sex buddy but perhaps long term- is there such a thing as too soon to have sex? and given the "emotions" involved in sex even if you both want it should you wait and how long?

I am wondering if anyone might have some good ways to create better safety and security while still playing the dating, mating and relating game.

I am wondering because this issue has come up for me on numerous occasions and I am still having to deal with it right now.

Lately because of my job and because of things that have happened to me as well as all of my studies of seduction and attraction that I have learned from people like Ross Jeffries and Mystery as well as my own personal experiences with women in the past I have become very focusd on this topic because it has gotten me in trouble in the past.

I've met girls both online and offline that have said that they liked and even loved me and that they wanted to be with me and because of what I have studied in the past I have believed them and in some cases I have actually tried to help some of them because I thought that they really did love me and that they really did want to be with me.

Now I am not quite sure and because of my need for both love as well as safety and security both online and offline I am trying to study things like private investigation and other related topics as I am just tired of being lied to by girls and other people who claim to have my best interest at heart, but who end up hurting me instead either finacially or emotionally.

I'm not sure what the solution to my problem is at the moment and that is why I am trying to get some advice and some real answers that really work because all that I want to be doing is spending my time using the stuff that I have studied in the past to create better relationships with real women that really and truly do love and want to be with me.

I'm tired of being lied to and played by people and at the moment I am looking for some good solutions to this whole problem.

Previous advice from Beagle and Xero worked out great for getting that first date, thanks guys. I'm taking her to a concert about an hour away, but that's not really important. My question is wether or not I should bring her a small gift when I pick her up. Perhaps a single flower of some kind? Or would this make me seam too desperate? Also, what would be the best way too compliment her without going overboard? Any advice guys or gals?

P.S. The best advice I have received thus far in these forums is just to bite the bullet, man up, and ask that certain someone out. I stummbled all over my tongue when I did, but she still said yes. Now the hard part's over!!!

Well not if she likes you, because one of Dan and Jennifer's videos says they couldn't possibly know but, rather if they think she would say yes if you asked her out. Is this ever a good idea or should I go direct to the source, bite the bullet, and get over fear of rejection?

I'm in college: I like my female neighbor and we have talked a little bit. We have a few classes together but never say more than hi. However, she always comes up to me and wants to talk at parties and dances. I don't know if she really likes me or if she's being a good neighbor. Should I just simply ask her out? When and where: at a party, before a class? Any advice will be appreciated. I was invited over once by a housemate for dinner. The girl I like told me the door is always open to me. Should I take advantage of that, just invite myself in and ask her to go out?

I'm taking a girl I live next to in a college town, to a concert an hour away from where we live. I've talked to her a little, got some background info. What do we do the entire drive to the concert. Do we talk, crank up the radio, or what, I don't want it to be awkward.