This seems really wierd to ask but is it possible to really enjoy BDSM w/o sex. I know all that I've seen has involved sex, so this is why I ask. I am really interested in this and my partner is too, but he is saving himself for marriage which sort of makes this difficult. I'm wondering if there are any ideas for things to do which do not end in sex, nor that cost an arm and a leg. Please post ideas!

Help!
I have always fantasized about being raped by a handsome man. I now fantasize about being raped and ravaged by my sex partner. I asked him if he could rape and ravage me, and he says that you can't rape the willing! He too has fantasized about raping me! Is there any way that we could act out each other's rape fantasies? Plus, I have been wanting to try BDSM, we already bite, scratch, cut, choke, and pull each other's hair and nipples, have anal, and he pulls and squeezes my breasts, we also already use hot candle wax, and blindfold and restrain each other with our hands. I am thinking that acting out our rape fantasies might move us from our already rough sex to more BDSM stuff, which we both would like to try without costing an arm and a leg!
Any suggestions would be highly appreciated.Thank you!