How do I tell my wife I want her to have sex with another man?

[Eleven_One]

My wife and I have been together for 20+ yrs and lately I've been fantasizing about her having hot & heavy sex with another man. My wife is 45 and she has a body of a teenager which is amazing because we have 5 kids. In the past three months, while having lunch with her girlfriends at various restaurants, she has been hit on by men 4 times while waiting at the counter or coming out of the women's bathroom. I know cause her girlfriend tells me everything. My wife finds it amusing as she sees it as 'MEN' with their childish thinking. Getting in trouble because they're using the wrong head to get ahead in life.

My wife is very conservative and finds the events of men hitting up on her flattering. But we are both happily married and I know she would 'GO OVER THE EDGE' if I even mentioned the idea of her having sex with another man. She is such a turn-on in bed I enjoy watching her reach her climax when we make love that I know she would be 'INCREDIBLE' to watch if a male PORNO STAR devoured her for a night.

How can I approach this subject in a suttle way without her thinking like I'm some dirty old man !

[Beagle]

If she isn't comfortable and you "persuade" her, then this is going to end in nothing but pain for everyone involved. One thing I respect Dan and Jennifer for is that they allow the "horror stories" to be posted on their forums. If you look at other sites, all you're going to get are the fake posts about how sexy, glamorous and great it is. That's the difference between real women and paid "actresses." Some fantasies are best left as fantasies. I bet the two of you can find ways to enjoy each other that she's comfortable with.

DON'T DO IT!

[Greg69Sheryl]

You've already answered your own question. If you truly believe she would "go over the edge" at the suggestion, then don't bother bringing up the issue. Personally, we believe that any happy couple with a good sex live ought to be able to openly discuss sexual fantasties, but only you can judge how your wife might react to such a talk.