Spanking Fetish

[thsbiansrck]

O.K. , here's my little situation. My fiance and I will be getting married in 4 days, and don't get me wrong, I am so in love with him and happy, but I am not sure he understands some aspects of me. We have talked about being in a D/s relationship several times over the last 6 months and I am still not sure what he thinks of it.
I know he is really trying, I mean the sex is just getting better and better, which to me is rougher and rougher , and don't get me wrong I am very satisfied sexually. I am just looking for something that goes beyond the bedroom. I thought it would be a good idea to gradually work into it with some domestic discipline, something that doesn't require alot of time per se, just because he would only have to "deal with it" when I step out of line ( well ..... I guess I do that quite a bit though....) and we can gradually build from there as we got more comfortable in our roles, but that only seems to last for about 2 days and then I do something that I am not supposed to, he knows about it and just never does anything, Then he says he forgot and gives me a half hearted swat on the bum as I walk past him ( and I know it's half hearted because I know how rough he can get in bed =P).
He says he doesn't want to hurt me, and i get that and honestly respect that, but I kinda feel he is hurting me more by not giving it a real go.
I know the reasons behind my fetish, and the reasons behind wanting to be spanked for discipline as an adult, and I have explained these things to him before. I know he is a very open minded person, so I think that is why I am having and even tougher time understanding why he won't follow through and give it a real try, he like spanking me, I like being spanked, and I have explained the reasons why.

Any advice???


Spankless in Phoenix

[Chris in oklahoma]

My boyfriend and i have strict guidelines in our relationship. They are hilarious and we never break them. If i do something wrong he definitely spanks me. If he does something wrong then i say i'm gonna kick his ass...(i never do) Anyways...we have two rules that make this possible...number one is when we are outside the home he is the boss. Secondly, if we are in the home, i'm the boss. He will spank me anywhere on the planet and in any company. It doesn't matter to him. he never really gets in trouble anyways so it works out fine. We play fight all the time but never get too rough in the bedroom (except tonite, i'm still sitting funny an hour later!). Anywho, here is what you do. If you mess up your roles then that itself needs a punishment! I didn't even like spankins before i got with him so i know you guys will work. Spank him as hard as you can, play fight, be rough with him. Once he gets the idea that you can take it and its a comfortable non-pressured kind of thing he will eventually give in to your requests. Don't pressure him, after all this is supposed to be fun!
Yours truly