How do I get my boyfriend understand what I like?

[YoungTexanLady]

I like erotic asphyxiation, being held down, hair pulling, etc., but my boyfriend is really nervous about doing these things to me. He has a couple of times because I asked him to, but he stops too soon for me to feel anything from it. I want him to feel comfortable with doing all this to me. How do I let him know that it's okay to go on longer and to do these things on a regular basis?

[stephen]

Since he gathering his thought on what you are really asking of him. I would go nice and so. Viewing a few movies and even talking about how you would like for your interest to be peaked. Even if know of place where your interest are being played out so he can see first hand at what you are asking. Best of luck

[Beagle]

I think you need to consider "Is this really who he is?" It sounds like what you're wanting is pretty extreme. For me, I would find even the illusion that I was choking and hurting a girl to be unbearable.

I agree with the previous poster. This is a conversation you need to have with your boyfriend. The final result may be that he just isn't going to be comfortable with what you're wanting.

[Viper]

The big question is "will he be able to do this" There are some men that are very scared to do this to a woman. With the right woman I enjoy this very much but I have many male friends that are totally scared at the concept when I tell them what I am doing. It is also something that the guy needs to ease into and become good at. There are tells from the female partner he will need to learn to become good at it. There is a difference between stop and STOP!!!!!! He might not be able to overcome himself enough to do this. Good luck