white male.

[white male in pa]

when i make it with my girlfriend--i alllways think of her having sex with a black male--and being pleasured--i allways talk dirty to her during sex--she just loves that.and i make sure i allways talk about a blk man taking her--and she allways has an orgasm when i talk about blk men with her----then it ends there---i wonder if she would--then i wonder if i would lose her if it did happen---white male

[K. in Cleveland]

So, what exactly is your question here? You want to know if you let her have sex with a black guy if she would leave you? You must be worried about that old saying... well, if it's something you want to try, there are plenty of ways you can go for it. It might feel safer for you if you find another couple, as single men pose a threat to the male in a relationship by not having anything to loose. Whereas a married man might have children, a home, nice car, etc, etc. to loose if he decides to take your woman. You can look online, there are plenty of sites out there for that, or find a club in your area. Or, if you'd rather it be a one time anonymous thing, then there's adult movie theaters, or you can go to a bar or dance club and pick up a guy, go to a hotel room for the night, try it out, and leave.
But the most important thing is that you ask her what she wants to do. Maybe the fantasy of it is more appealing to her than if she were actually going to. Interracial things can be very difficult for some people, depending on how they were raised. And that goes for all races, ethnicities, and religions... Talk to her, see what she wants, and if she would like to have an experience with a black man.

[Dan And Jennifer]

It definitely sounds like a good fantasy/role play for the two of you. If you are curious about taking it further - talk to her about it...

I agree with K. that sometimes, it's the idea of something more than the actual act that is a turn on. But if you do want to take it further, a couple is a safer alternative than a single man or woman - they have stake in the game so to speak.

AdultFriendFinder is a good website to look around and check it out and talk about it. There are also more niche sites out there catering to more specific fantasies and fetishes.

I would also recommend that before bringing any other person into your sex life that you talk about your fears and insecurities up front and make sure to talk about boundaries and ground rules - know the rules before playing the game. That way you can both come out winners.

[Derrick Wayne]

i think you should first understand your fascination with black people, i have a white girl friend who tok time to once describe to me her over fascination with black people, african males in particular, some of the things she said made sense and some didnt.

1. she liked how the can be very emotionaly sensitive but at the same time very physically intimidating, (i guess this is got to do with their skin)

2. she likes their stamina, now i have never had sex with a black guy or a guy of any coler but i have had sex with women from different races, and the might some truth to the intensity level of "black sex" you can almost sense it they are a tiny bit more athletic, wich they express during sex by the abitlity to sustain quite a high level of intensity sex. (i find am always so exhausted afterwards)

3. She said the penis thing is true, but i've also heard it from other girls that have disputed the theory.

Now from reading your paragraph am sensing that, your more absessed with the more rough side of black people often low class black people. Who often tend to use a more rough tone in there speech which they achieve by excesively including proffanity in there senstences. The more gansta type if i can say.

Well thats not so abnormal, alot of guys desire a more macho and more aggressive personna we often associate these qualities with raw and pure masculinity.

The fact that your girl is attracted to all this could also is also not abnormal, Studies have shown it is actualy possible for women to be attracted to rough maculine figures during certain times in ther menstruation cycle. Ofcoz i dont know if your girlfriend is always like this so i guess it worth talking to her about this and understanding if its just during certain times that she feels liek this or is it all the time, because in the case of full time absession that should be a reason for your concern. Coz she is then more likely to be sexually unsatisified with you thus even act on this which prob dont want.

and you that other myth once they black they dont go back.