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Old 07-23-2008, 05:41 PM
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Question Foot fetishes... nobody likes them but statistics show otherwise

How's it going guys, my name's Bret, Im 18 and in college in Orlando, FL. I'm not really sure how I came across your video series but I found them interesting! Some pretty funny too! And of course some informative. Anyway I thought I'd suggest a topic for a new video, foot fetishes. Its been said that over 80% of American people have foot fetishes. Its also been said that the origin of the foot fetish is that animals long ago gave off certain oils from their feet in order to show dominance of a territory, and these oils sometimes attracted others. It also must be understood that modern foot fetishes range from the extreme to the very casual. Casual being those who are very sensual, slow, and erotic when incorporating it into their sex lives and extreme being those who are into the dirty, smelly, sweaty stuff. I myself am a foot fetishist (sounds professional) and love female feet, but believe in the slogan "anything in moderation" so I'm the type of guy with what I described as a "casual" foot fetish. I obviously don't see anything wrong with it as long as a persons feet are clean and well kept and as long as things don't get out of hand (ie extreme foot fetishes). So I suppose my question is why do people, specially women, feel so strong against it or lie about it? It would be great if you guys could touch on the topic in any way even if it's a brief video.

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Old 07-23-2008, 10:29 PM
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..... Its been said that over 80% of American people have foot fetishes. ....
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80% ???
I have been involved in the foot fetish world for years and I have never heard that statistic.
Do you have a source for that?
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Old 07-24-2008, 05:53 AM
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Not sure which month/year but there was actually an article about it in a Playboy magazine. Go figure And does this prove that some guys DO actually read things in Playboy? Haha.
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Old 07-24-2008, 09:20 AM
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For sure foot fetish is the #1 fetish. I used to not understand it but talked with a few footies and they clued me in, now I get it. They helped me see that a foot is like a miniature woman - curvy, feminine, easier to focus on and worship than an entire woman!

I thought it was so interesting when a guy told me one time that he finds it way sexier to see a woman in flip flops than to see her topless! Means women are running around titillating guys all summer long.

A lot of women are repressed and are taught that sexy stuff is freaky or weird. They aren't encouraged to get their freak on, which polarizes them.

Women should embrace this fetish, it's so sexy to extend erogenous zones beyond the tits and crotch. And mmmm foot rubs yesss!
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Old 07-24-2008, 01:00 PM
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A few weeks ago I was at a party where one of the couples are foot fetish folk...and he's known in this circle for surprising women by sticking their toes in his mouth while playing... I asked him how he realized he liked feet, and he said it was actually a relatively recent discovery for him. One of his wife's girlfriends likes feet, and she started sucking his toes while they were playing... he was kinda freaked out at first but he said it actually got him off... so he tried it on his wife, she had the same reaction... now it's evolved to a full out fetish and he worships female feet and legs...
I'm the same as The Beautiful Kind, I used to not understand it, but now I really can get into it. This is why while the weather is warm I love walking around in sandals with painted nails keep teasin those foot guys... hehehe. Kinda fun.

But it really is an interesting subject... a lot of people do seem afraid to say they like feet/toes...
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Old 07-24-2008, 01:38 PM
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People lie about their various fetishes and fantasies simply out of fear of rejection, not fitting in, or being perceived as weird. When someone is comfortable in their own skin and not looking for approval from others, they're more likely to be honest about it.

As far as stats, here's what I found online...

Foot Fetishes are definitely the most popular body related fetish.

Foot fetishism - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia - among sexual preferences for body parts, feet and toes were the most popular, with 47 per cent of those sampled preferring them

AOL's Accidental Release of Search Data in 2006 – foot fetish was the most common search term containing “fetish”

Women are repressed and are taught that sexy stuff is freaky or weird – so they may not be as open as they should.

Introduce any fetish or kink slowly in new relationships to help your new partner be more open and accepting.

As always – if it hinders your daily activities – it’s a problem. Time to seek professional help. But in my opinion, that rule applies to coffee as well. If you NEED coffee every day - time to get some help.
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People lie about their various fetishes and fantasies simply out of fear of rejection, not fitting in, or being perceived as weird. When someone is comfortable in their own skin and not looking for approval from others, they're more likely to be honest about it.
Women are repressed and are taught that sexy stuff is freaky or weird – so they may not be as open as they should.

Introduce any fetish or kink slowly in new relationships to help your new partner be more open and accepting.

As always – if it hinders your daily activities – it’s a problem. Time to seek professional help. But in my opinion, that rule applies to coffee as well. If you NEED coffee every day - time to get some help.
Man.. I'm glad I was never taught to see sex stuff as freaky or weird..lol.. I love to get my freak on! I like to say I'm try-sexual, I'll try anything twice! (works better when actually speaking, sounds like tri-sexual) And actually, even though I say that jokingly, I really do think that if you're trying something new, and the 1st time it's not that great, you should give it a 2nd chance, sometimes just a little different approach can mean the difference between "ehh...whatever" and "OHHHH YEAH!! YES YES YEEEESSSS!"
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Old 07-24-2008, 02:22 PM
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Wow thanks for the responses, you guys dont play around on these forums! I think Im realizing that the problem for people my age and introducing foot fetishes is that, like Dan and Jen said, "People lie about their various fetishes and fantasies simply out of fear of rejection, not fitting in, or being perceived as weird. When someone is comfortable in their own skin and not looking for approval from others, they're more likely to be honest about it." That DEFINITELY applies to people my age. The very young people. And being a very young person I can tell you that people nowadays try SO DAMN HARD to fit in, wherever they go! And obviously having a foot fetish would be considered weird amongst us youngins. Some people purpously put the fetish down when the subject comes up, even if they do like it, just to make sure that it doesn't appear they have a foot fetish. Obviously I dont have this problem I have proof that this is the reason because every time I ever talk to a girl about sex or anything remotely kinky one on one (which is fortunately very often ), I say one little tiny tiny thing about feet and then she comments on it and it will either turn into a big conversation or she'll just say "ugh. I hate feet." and thats the end of the conversation. But usually it goes like this... I say something about her feet or shoes just to bring up the subject, and then she talks about them saying they just got a pedicure or a tan or "they've always thought they had cute feet" and then I just AGREE and make sure I emphasize that and give them compliments. From there I'll announce that Ive always liked feet and either her eyes will light up and she'll look interested and ask more or she'll once again say she thinks feet are gross. And if she's interested, well, I'll spare the details or at least leave them to your imagination!

Anyways maybe this will help people introduce their foot fetishes? Sorry if I'm stealing your job, Dan and Jennifer Perhaps you should make a video "How to Introduce a Foot Fetish To Someone" and list those steps or something like them? I've found that those steps are the key.

By the way K. in Cleveland... damn you for teasing us! Actually thats good though it would be way easier to bring up the topic of feet if I knew a girl knew that I was looking and I knew she was playing with me (that sounded confusing). Oh and Im DEFINITELY stealing the "try-sexual" line, I love that!

And The Beautiful Kind, I think in some situations, it IS hotter to see a girl barefoot than to see her topless. But either way Im gonna stare! I love when girls where those little sophie shorts and flip flops. INSTANT attraction for me
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Bret,

We have no such issues. Quite the contrary actually - we want all the help we can get!

I can't begin to tell you how happy we both are to see how this community we started just 2 months ago has grown - it's literally on fire. So much better than our mailbox overfilling with dozens of questions a day that we have no way to ever get to!

And so you know where we're coming from - we don't in any way claim to know everything, we just want to bring together as many people ("experts" and just great people who want to help others) together to help one another.

And we try to get some core messages out there, such as having more respect for one anther's personal choices, and creating relationships based on love and acceptance instead jealousy and ownership. And teaching our kids sex ed! if you missed that video, check it out in the Censorship and Sexual Repression Forum, it was a crazy discussion and a really great show.

I really hope that you will now dive in and give some words of encouragement to other people who are waiting for an answer or a helpful suggestion. In a way it's the pay it forward approach, we're all here to help one another and try to make another person's day brighter. OK, rant over.

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Absolutely, we'll probably do just that. We have about 200 videos out on YouTube as of now and we're currently producing about 50 new videos a month, our goal being 100 a month in the coming months.

And every weekday we do our live video show and grab our favorite questions of the day from the forums for the show.

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Old 08-20-2008, 02:29 PM
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My boyfriend and I, both have a foot fetish.
He likes to suck on my toes and massage my feet.
He wanted to know what i liked about it so much, so i did it back to him and he went crazy.

I say, as long as the feet are clean and reasonably well kept, why not.
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