how do i know he's interested?

[girlnextdoor]

i've just started working at this new store and met this guy. i work in the deli and he works in fresh produce so it means i get a full view of wat he's doing every Saturday
my problem is we made eye contact and it didnt feel like it was awkward eye contact. the first time we made eye contact was definately by accident but afterwards i notice him smiling while working (he could just be a happy guy).
for 4 saturdays straight we made eye contact. but still have not approached each other - not even a "hi, hows it going". but i do notice that he always smiles that 'i'm glad she came to work' smile every time after eye contact (because i do it too). but again he could just be a smiling kinda guy. i asked my guy friends wat they think and they said he could just be lookin because i was looking at him. that because the first time was 'accidental' he may be mislead into thinking i like him hence he wants to check out the scene. or he could simply be polite and looking back into my eyes? or he could be just bored at work and looking around out of habit? it's confusing coz he hasnt said hi.. i dont want to embarrass myself coz we'll be working together for a long time! so is he interested, checking out the scene or just polite?

[SamIAm]

Well what I'd say is just approach him somehow with a friendly sort of hello. Then you'll have more opportunity to gauge the situation but won't be flirting, which could be embarrassing if he's not interested. I'd just make friends first.

Good luck!

[girlnextdoor]

hey samiam
i took up ur advice and said hey to him today
and he casually said "how's it going"
it was a real ice breaker
so thanks for making me doing stuff i would have been to scared to do

[Alexstrandberg]

hey,

Be very careful with dating co-workers. I make it a rule to never date someone you work with because so many times it turns sour very quickly. Dating at work seems logical because you spend most of your time there. It's easy and convenient but it comes with a price:

-If you started dating him and another co-worker doesn't like you she might take a run at him to spite you
-it goes sour and he turns other co-workers against you

The list goes on and on but you get the point. But if you decide to go with it here are a couple of things that can help you:

Fear of looking dumb will be the biggest issue holding you back. You need to recognize it and push through that fear. I enjoy poking fun at the girl I am talking to, especially if she embarrasses herself. If she takes my jokes and actually can laugh at herself, she's a keeper.

Other ways to get things going:

-you have a rude customer, talk to him about it in a funny way. Don't break down crying to him about it but talk about the rude customer. Then he can talk to you about the rude customers that come in and so on.

-Ask him what he did on his days off. If he did something you liked then you can mention it to him. Hopefully he will get the idea and say "hey, you should come with me to do xyz"

-If he didn't do anything fun or interesting tell him so and suggest that you like doing this and that much better. Kind of a challenge but in a playful way.

Some small tips to get things rolling.

Good luck

Alex