im not sure...

[notsureatall]

alright i have some major problems with shyness, etc im a slightly average looking guy and i cant seem to talk to girls and ask them out i work up the nerve and then i go over and say something and i find a way to end the conversation without asking her out with fear of rejection.

im not near any of my old friends ive recently moved and i see all of these beautiful women how do i go about talking to one and eventually asking one out?:confu sed:

[Xero]

Since your problem seems to be confidence, one way is to get used to being rejected. You can accomplish that by asking any random girl that is way out of your league and that would work. Another way is to talk to your self in a mirror and repeat it a thousand times. I don't really know if this is an option for you, but you can go to they gym and lift some weights. That builds confidence due to the chemicals in your brain increasing.

How long are you talking to these girls, just once, a few times, or a lot. If it's once you can ask for their number, just be ready for a no. You can reply "ok your loss" and walk away. If you have been talking a few times the phone number would come a lot easier. If it's been a lot and you still cannot get their number or are afraid to you can drop them a note.

I think asking for their number would be best, you can continue to talk to them more, and you can then ask them out later. Asking for their number gives them an idea that your interested and they wont be blown away from a random "will you go out with me".

If you have any further questions or want to go into details submit another reply on this thread.

Hope this helps.

[MountainGirl]

Personally, as a girl, I love using the "Hey, you seem cool, we should get together and hang out sometime! Whats your number?" pick up line. I'm great at being friends with guys, but when it comes to actually making it obvious that I'm interested in a guy, I suck at it too - rejection is sooooo scary, but in reality not that bad. So why not get to know the girl first and be her friend? That makes it much easier to tell if she's even your type.
Okay, so how do you get to the "lets hang out sometime" part form being strangers? If you figure that out, tell me. Okay, half serious. The only way I've found to connect with a total stranger is to be SOCIAL. It doesn't matter what or where.. you're in the grocery store, you see a cute girl in line behind you and want to ask her out, what do you do? Tell her you like her earrings.. even make something little up to have something to talk to her about. "I really like your earrings, I've been looking for a birthday present for my mom and would love to get her a pair like those. Where did you get them?" ad then just keep the conversation going.
Just get used to it! Be social, it will never hurt! It will help you make new friends and get dates. Just be confident and talk to strangers - about anything. Male or female. Good luck!