Height issue

[actor30]

I'm a guy of short stature (only 5'1). This makes me very insecure with women, especially when I want to approach them. How can approach women without having to worry about my height and actually turn it into an advantage?

[modernsavage]

Hi Actor30,

I'm glad you brought this up because I think this is a huge issue for a lot of men out there, most notably and obviously the short ones.

I feel your frustration, as I have always been the shortest guy in whatever social circle I've been in for most of my life. At 5'4", it's been tough but you know what - I can't change my height, these were the cards I was dealt. Same for you.

So, how do you deal with it? I've been struggling with a good explanation for this, but the easy answer is to treat it as a non-issue. Just pretend or even better, accept that it doesn't effect you. When you don't treat your height as an insecurity, you'll have more confidence, feel better and have the ability to approach women. I wish I had a better answer for you or even a magic pill that could increase your height but I don't.

Play to your strengths not your weaknesses.

[Sub In Tenn]

Originally Posted by actor30

I'm a guy of short stature (only 5'1). This makes me very insecure with women, especially when I want to approach them. How can approach women without having to worry about my height and actually turn it into an advantage?

height,weight,and penis size i see that men are always so darn concerned about.quit worring about your size,be yourself.it's how god made you.there are many short girls out there if the height is such a problem

[Exavion]

To be honest with you, some girls think height is a huge deal, most don't realize it though; but it's just part of the traits that turn them on.

This is okay, because just the same, there are those girls who are attracted to shorter guys.

Also, even at 5'1, there are girls who are even shorter than you, so if you prefer to be with someone your height, it's definitely possible. At least around here, I see plenty of young 5 foot women floating around.

Now I also feel sort of bad, I'm 5'6 and I used to worry! It's laughable, because it doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is that you are confident in who you are, be natural, fun and positive, and even if you get rejected (which will happen eventually, regardless, no one has never been rejected imo), just act like it doesn't bother you.

Always remember these two things, confidence is key, and there are plenty of fish in the sea.

[K. in Cleveland]

OK, first of all, I'm sorry you've been having issues. Unfortunately this world is so interested in outward physical appearance and generally does not pay much mind to who a person actually is. Personally, I know I'm attracted to a guy who is confident and not cocky. You know, someone who owns their actions, sure of themselves, but not stuck up. This is probably why even at 78 I think Sean Connery is hot! He owns a room when he walks in, yet he does not give the impression he thinks he's better than anyone. Point is, if you own your height, make it something you can use for the positive... Not everyone is 6'4 and 200. But you know what, some of the tall guys walking around feel just as insecure about something about themselves as you do about your height.

You have to just put yourself out there. You're going to get rejected, but so does anyone who goes out there! You'll have to learn not to take rejection to heart... it's nothing personal.. how can it be? they don't know you! The more you put yourself out there, the easier it will become.
Don't tell my Abnormal Psychology prof, but I cannot remember the name of the psychologist who decided to treat his own anxiety about approaching women by asking out 100 women within 100 days. The short of it, he got rejected most of the time, but he got a few dates out of it, and also the more he did it, the less and less anxiety he had about it.

Just be you, that's all you can be. I think the good women, the ones worth dating, can tell when a guy is being himself and is comfortable as such. You don't want a shallow one anyway...too high maintainence lol.

Good luck.