Am I bisexual?

[Samantha87]

Okay, so I have an amazing boyfriend. We have been together for a little over two years. We plan to get married at some point...not rush though, I have always kind of been attracted to the idea of sex with another woman. I get really tuned on by things like lesbian porn and just the thought of having sex with a woman. I do not want to end my relationship with my boyfriend, but what should I do about being attracted to other women? Am I bisexual? Do I need to discuss this with my boyfriend? Please help!

[scarbowl]

Well....you don't say how old you are but I'm guessing you are relatively young.

One thought, though, which your boyfriend will enjoy is to arrange a FMF three-some. He'll be delighted and you can experience the lesbian part. Choose carefully and talk it over in detail with your boyfriend. Make sure you are both fully okay.

You can tell him you are doing it for him or admit that you find it exciting as well. He isn't likely to suspect you have ulterior motives. You could do it for his birthday or some anniversary as further cover.

He'll be thrilled and you can get an idea of what it is like to be with a woman.

[Partbi]

you'd better let your boyfriend know this. You should be honestly to him since you love him. I guess you just are bi-curious.

[rob]

Is there any particular aspect of lesbian sex you find appealing? It isn't neccessarily any sort of bisexuality. Look at the kinsey scale ( Kinsey scale - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia ) you might just be a 2. You don't have to tell him.
Having said that, communication is a key point in a successful relationship. You could take scarbowl's advice and have a threesome, or you could just tell your boyfriend.
Have you ever taken part in lesbian sex? That's another key point. If you have, or have come close to it, then you are fairly bi-curious, but otherwise it is fairly natural. Most people have a little bi-curiousity in them.

[Tanya in Austria]

There are different levels of bisexuality and how attracted you are to others of the same gender. For me, the attraction is almost equal, but shifted slightly more towards women. Everyone is different and most women I have talked to about the subject admit to enjoying lesbian porn and like entertaining thoughts, but couldn't actually picture themselves going through with the act or having a real relationship with a woman. So, that being said, you could find women attractive without being attracted to them. It's really different for everyone so you should think more about it and find out where you stand on the matter.

As for your relationship, I think it's important to discuss this with your boyfriend, but if it's just a passing phase and it's not very important to you, then you wouldn't have to. Again, it's really different for everyone, so take some time to think about it and good luck.

Tanya in Austria

[givem]

Originally Posted by Samantha87

Okay, so I have an amazing boyfriend. We have been together for a little over two years. We plan to get married at some point...not rush though, I have always kind of been attracted to the idea of sex with another woman. I get really tuned on by things like lesbian porn and just the thought of having sex with a woman. I do not want to end my relationship with my boyfriend, but what should I do about being attracted to other women? Am I bisexual? Do I need to discuss this with my boyfriend? Please help!

In my experiance you are BI and just go with the flow! Work with it hun it's in your favor

[BiJane]

You are only ever truly bisexual if you want to be; this goes for every other orientation. You can only belong to that label if you desire to be so. I'm not saying you can change your orientation, but you can choose what you act upon. Everyone is born bisexual; that's why we can be friends with both men and women. It's just a few people choose to fully become bisexual, like me. Be heterosexual if you want, I would say consider it an experiment but it's only an experiment if you aren't continuing with it. Give it a go if you want, be bisexual if
a) you enjoy it
b) You want to be bisexual.