Since we moved in sex has slowed way down

[confused in MD]

ok so my boyfriend and i have moved in with each other and since we done that sex has slowed from like every day to like if im lucky once a week. now i know i was expecting it to slow but it seems like he isnt in the mood anymore and doesnt even want me to touch him is there any advice on how to spiceit up and get our spark back?

[Xero]

I think this is where your going to have to sit down and talk with him about it.

It's obviously coming from his side. I think you need to do things slow again, do foreplay to get him and you in the mood. It will feel like starting over at one again, by this I mean take things slow and be romantic don't lead straight into sex.

When you talk to him about it ask him why hes not having sex with you so much any more. Make sure you talk about everything on your mind with him, and make sure you sound concerned not upset about it.

Try to find a middle ground for both of you to fix this problem. It must be agreed upon by both people its not supposed to be one sided. Sex just like a relationship needs a lot of communication.

[arlingtonguy]

I think every relationship hits a dry spell from time to time. Especially the more long term they are. I agree communication between partners is key. Discussing the problem is really the only way to resolve it.

You might try reading a book called Intimacy Between Men: Finding and Keeping Gay Love Relationships by John Driggs and Stephen Finn. They offer a lot of insight into relationship struggles and way to discuss matters with your partner.

Once you both decide to commit and make the relationship work you will find a solution that works for you both. Hang in there and best of luck to you.