Not good at relationships

[Not2Sure]

I seem to have bad luck with girls and I'm not sure why not I can tell when she likes me, and if i like her i ask her out and then a week later i get dumped i have started to become self-concious and i wanna know how i can get more confidence i also seem to feel like i am a not very attractive person

[HopelessLover]

There are alot of possibilitys as to why u keep getting dumped. Maybe it isnt you, maybe the girls you are getting involved with are afraid of commitment, or afraid of your assertiveness. Maybe you are too clingy, or possessive? It is hard for men and woman in the dating world, men have it harder i think because us woman are naturally complicated and more emotional creatures. For example is you tell your girl that you would like her to call you by 5 pm cause your going to a meeting or something and u want to talk to her b4 the meeting, she can take it one of 2 ways and it really depends on what kinda girl she is. She can flip out and accused you of not wanting her to call after 5 cause ur goin on a date or having relations with another girl or she can just say ok honey and call you at 5. One thing men have to understand is the simpliest of things can spring an argument with a woman even unintentionally, so the best advice for men is to think how you would respond to whatever it is b4 u say anything if you were an emotional creature like your woman. I suggest for u personally is that you sit down and write down all of your shortcomings and then on a nother paper right you attributes. When your done put yourself in the position of a girl you are interested in as if you were getting to know her and she was finding out all of these things you wrote down. If you would still date yourself after taking your inventory then its most likely the girls you date and you just have to wait for the right one to come along that you are compatible with. If you would not then i suggest you start working on fixing your shortcomings so you will appeal more to your type of woman. I hope i have helped.

[FemaleOrgasm]

Leadership/status is the most attractive (super) trait to women. It has many components. Here's some to start you off:

Body language: Stand tall (but have relaxed shoulders) , take up space and don't break eye contact until the other person does. Don't fidget or let your eyes dart around.

Voice: Speak with a loud resonating voice and just a little bit slower than normal. Use more pauses. Hum all the time to develop resonance. Avoid the high-pitched, fast , whiney, approval-seeking "nice-guy" voice.

Words: Your sentence structure is short and simple. You use simple words because you're more interested in getting your message in the other person's head quickly rather than trying to sound intelligent. The ironic thing is that explaining things simply makes you sound intelligent.

Personality:

Resilience: You don't experience many negative emotions. It takes a lot for you to feel stress. You have a rapid rebound time. You don't complain or criticize. Even if you feel stress, you APPEAR cool, calm and collected.

Extraversion: You are relaxed and feel a lot of positive emotions. You are optimistic. You walk towards other people and start conversations. You have high self-esteem (you like yourself). You make other people feel good about themselves.

Explorer: You continually learn new things. Your life is filled with many interests and hobbies (this makes you interesting and mysterious). You like to visualize your goals. You love art and music.

Focused: You move towards your goals (rather than moving away from problems), You focus on one thing at a time until you've finished. You don't multi-task (because this causes stress, is unproductive and lowers your IQ more than smoking pot), You focus your attention for 2 hours at a time then you take a break for 20 minutes where you are completely unplugged. You continually improve yourself and your products. You eliminate distractions like cell phones, email, TV etc when you focus on your projects. When you focus, you are completely relaxed and in the zone.

Challenger: You don't let other people dominate you. You punish all bad behavior (build an arsenal of constructive criticism, witty insults, legal skills and martial arts skills). You say NO calmly (ie NOT arrogantly) to people or things that don't meet your high standards. You can become a vicious mad dog if someone crosses the line. Stop apologising for being you. Unless you break the law or act like a jerk, you've got nothing to be sorry for. Give yourself permission because no one ever will. Say to yourself “I give myself permission to do that thing and I deserve to have it.”You are cocky AND funny. You say and do things that are part cocky AND part funny. Don't do too much cocky because you'll come off as an arrogant jerk. Don't use too much funny because you'll come off as goofy. This is a counter-intutitve way of communicating with women that makes them extremely attracted to you. You can tell you're doing it right when she's laughing, pretending to be mad with you and playfully hitting you. Always end the interaction with women a little to soon and on a positive note. This will make them what you even more and they'll be thinking about you all the time.