We can only have sex when im on top... really the penis wont let me any other way??

[playgirl101]

So the sex is good but me as a girl i would like to be on the bottom sometimes... we have tried but his penis wont stay hard ... So we always go back to me on top.. i want new sex .... someone please help me!!!

[Xlife]

Put Viagra in his drink.

[scarbowl]

Not even "doggie style?" Most men love that - to hold their girl's hips and, you know.....

[Beagle]

Playgirl101: Something is wrong here. There's a reason he doesn't keep an erection when he's on top. I think you and he will need a sex therapist to figure this out. I just don't think this can be diagnosed over the internet.

[Xlife]

Whats wrong with the Viagra idea?

[playgirl101]

We talked about using viagra... but just hoping we dont have to go to the drugs right away... is there any creams or special lube??? or special moves haha

[Xlife]

I know they make cream, not sure what it's called, but not sure about lubes, or special moves.

[FemaleOrgasm]

Say " I love how hard you cock gets etc..." Repeat the keywords "hard cock".

[Beagle]

I came across this research and I thought it might be helpful to you. Korean Red Ginseng has been found to help men maintain erections. The good news is it's extremely safe. You couldn't physically eat enough to hurt you. Here's the research article.

Study of the efficacy of Korean Red Ginseng in the treatment of erectile dysfunction.
de Andrade E, de Mesquita AA, Claro Jde A, de Andrade PM, Ortiz V, Paranhos M, Srougi M.

Sector of Sexual Medicine, Division of Urological Clinic of Sao Paulo University, Sao Paulo, Brazil. enricoandrade@uol.com.br

AIM: To examine the treatment efficacy of Korean Red Ginseng (KRG) in impotent men with erectile dysfunction (ED). METHODS: A total of 60 patients presenting mild or mild to moderate ED were enrolled in a double-blind, placebo-controlled study in which the efficacies of KRG and a placebo were compared. The patients received either 1,000 mg (3 times daily) of KRG or a placebo. RESULTS: The five-item version of the International Index of Erectile Function (IIEF-5) score after the treatment was significantly higher in the KRG group compared with that before the treatment (from 16.4 +/- 2.9 to 21.0 +/- 6.3, P < 0.0001). In contrast, there was no difference before and after the treatment in the placebo group (from 17.0 +/- 3.1 to 17.7 +/- 5.6, P > 0.05). In the KRG group, 20 patients (66.6%), reported improved erection, significant in the global efficacy question (P < 0.01); in the placebo group there was no significance. Scores on questions 2 (rigidity), 3 (penetration), 4 and 5 (maintenance), were significantly higher for KRG than those for the placebo when those questions were answered after 12 weeks of each treatment (P < 0.01). When the score in the KRG group was compared to the placebo group after the treatment, there was a significant improvement in total score (IIEF-5 score) in questions 3 and 5 for the KRG-treated group (P < 0.001 and P < 0.0001, respectively). The levels of serum testosterone, prolactine and cholesterol after the treatment were not statistically significant different between the KRG and the placebo group (P > 0.05). CONCLUSION: Our data show that KRG can be an effective alternative to the invasive approaches for treating male ED.

[Garnet Anne]

It sounds to me like (and I could be wrong, its just an opinion) he might have a bit of a liking for "girl in charge" thing. While you're on top its like you're taking your pleasure, you are the boss. And some guys get off on that. Just like some like their lady to be submissive.

Maybe he's got himself stuck on one fantasy and nothing else works. The fantasy of being dominated by an all-powerful female can appeal to guys a lot. In fact, being dominated is a rather frequent fantasy for a lot of people I've found.

The two reasons (I've discovered) for this are:
A) they are usually in charge in daily life, so during sex they need to switch it up for excitement purposes.

B) the other extreme, they're very submissive in daily life and that's all they know how to do.

Try talking to him GENTLY (that's the key) about it, find out if maybe there is some reason that it works, there is potential he doesn't even realise what it is. Maybe see a sex therapist (someone suggested that I think) and try to come up with new, exciting fantasies to get you both off in ways you'd both enjoy.