help !

[jill in michigan]

okay this is a lot to write. first of all ive been dating my boyfriend fir 3 months almost and we got into this argument the other day and both of our feelings came out for the both of us and how we feel about eachother, ends up he likes me more than i like him by a lot. i alreeady knew this but he didnt. well we decieded to go on a break until we both figure out what we want and if we want a relationship. well i was upset and i was talking to an old guy friend of mine. he wants me to go on a boat with him this weekend . i really want to go and catch up with him. i havent seen him in forever! well the day im supposed to go out on the boat with hinm is the day my friends want me and my boyfriend totalk about everything, and whether or not we want to date eachother, im sorry byut ium still in highschool and i want to have fun, not get serious in realtionships. i thought thats what i wanted, i think thats what my firends want for me. i dont know what to tell my botfriend or even if im able to that day.imnot gonna bail on my guy friend but my boyfriend took off work so that i could talk to him, what do i do ?

[Beagle]

Just an observation: It sounds like you've already made up your mind about the boyfriend. Maybe just jump that conversation up a little. I'm not sure you and he have a lot to talk about. I think you've already decided on the other guy and you're just wondering how to tell the ex-boyfriend.

[Jake in chattanooga]

Dont let your ex think there is a chance if you want out of it get a clean break. that simple, you should of told him the truth to begin with. now he thinks he has a chance or that there is something he has done wrong. you were lucky to get a guy who cares for you that much,but do what u want cause im kinda seeming like an ass

[jill in michigan]

well the thing is i though i wanted a relationship, but after alotttt of thinking it over for the past couple days, Ive decided i don't. the reason for the break is so i could figure that out. my boyfriend told me that no matter what , he just wants me to be happy. and i would just talk to him and hope for the convo. to be short but i know he wouldnt make it short, he just has a way with words. lol. and he said that if we did break up he would stilll want to be friends. im okay with that.


im thinking that my bestfriend and all my friends dont want us to break up. i dont think they understand it though. they want me to talk to him and fix everything. my bestfriend doesnt want to listen to me when im saying i dont want a relationship.

and ive decided to go on the boat with my guy friend, i think itll be a good way to get away from things for a weekend, and to make my desicion final about my boyfriend, or soon to be ex.

[Jake in chattanooga]

But you need to concider his feelings also. I have been in his situation. Honestly the longer you wait worst it will be. The boat idea is not a safe thing it will bring an ungodly amount if drama in ur life once ppl find out. The safest bet is to cut all ties with ur ex. If u are SURE u don't like him because he will always hold in to you and get jelous and stuff

[jill in michigan]

i didnt think of it that way, its true. and im going to talk to him as soon as i can i just want to do i in person and not over the phone. he has to work like all the time though and the next time he doesnt have work is monday. i know he wont take what i have to say well though :/

[YourEternalRest]

Originally Posted by jill in michigan

im thinking that my bestfriend and all my friends dont want us to break up. i dont think they understand it though. they want me to talk to him and fix everything. my bestfriend doesnt want to listen to me when im saying i dont want a relationship.

and ive decided to go on the boat with my guy friend, i think itll be a good way to get away from things for a weekend, and to make my desicion final about my boyfriend, or soon to be ex.

First, a note on these friends of yours. They're not the ones that are dating you or your bf so they're not gonna know how it is between you and your bf (or ex-bf). You also said your friends aren't listening to you so you're already out with that avenue for help.

Secondly, I think it's good you decided to go on the boat trip. You've already said that you're not really in love with him so I don't see how your relationship can continue with him. But don't just kick him to the curb though. He doesn't sound like a bad guy, it's just that you're not attracted to him.