How do I know he loves me?

[Grotesque]

Id watch more how a guy acts rather then what they say. We are cavemen you know!?

Does he hug you, slap your bum, play, joke and enjoy your company, talk about you to his friends, want to do hang out often, calls you? If so then you have a good "catch".

[DeathPhantom]

Calls me when he he has the chance, cuddles me, kisses me softly, always gets happy around me, talks to me around his friends, holds my hand, wraps his arms around me, rubs my back.. you get the point. >< And we joke around sometimes to, but he doesn't slap my bum, cause he knows I don't like that.

[Grotesque]

No bum smacks!! Aww you made me cry. More of a light slap.. Mmm anyway back on track...

Sounds like a great guy. Im starting to see why you love him so much. He also seem the type you need to either shock or force to do something (or change). I could be wrong but Im just thinking of past experiences and how to solve them.

One way of changing him is to stop the sex all together. This might be extreme but also a little fun. Act day to day as normal but wear sexy cloths and tease him when possible (tops that show cleavage, tight pants, sucking a lollipop etc).

No matter what dont have "noogie". If he does something you like then let him continue. As soon as he does something you dont like stop all together. Make an excuse if you have too. Slap his hands and walk off without reason.

This could take some time but he should get the point eventually. A man can only take so much. The point is to make him learn what is good and what is bad. If he expects to jump on you and do his thing right away then this HAS to stop.

Just make sure when he does something right he knows about it very clearly. Be it with sound or grabbing his butt. "Oh yeah baby" works wonders.

Listen to me, I sound like Dr Love!! Scary.

[DeathPhantom]

We haven't had sex yet, only oral.. but yeah. And he actually suggested stopping sex once, so we could talk more in our relationship. He's very sweet and caring, and sometimes says things without thinking. He also has a brain disorder.. autistic. It makes him see, think, feel, and hear differently, it's only mild though, and isn't to much of a big deal or anything.

I don't really need to force him into anything, if he upsets me in some way I'll just ask him not to mention that again, and he won't, then apologizes about hurting me, and tries making it better some how.
We talk a lot in our relationship, so we pretty much know whatever is goingon with each other, The good and the bad.

We're i a long distance relationship, so we don't see each other ever day, but talk on the phone, and msn as much as we can.

Thank you for your help. ^^

[Corey]

In what was being said i agree that you have to watch what the guy does. If hes in it just for the "fun" or if hes really into your pesonality more. Tease him a little but not to much. Just test to see if hes more of a guy who is into sexual things or into romantic things.

When you see him tel him you love him and look into his eyes. For when he sais it back he should do the same! And dont be fooled by the glimmer in his eyes. look deeper, and youll find if he truly does love you.

He is caring. And he said that he didnt want to do anything sexual. So thats a +.

[Sachiel]

I think it's ok, because he tells you that, so, i think he is open and honest to you.
If you feel kind of uncomfortable. Just ask yourself these questions:
Does he respect you? Does he care for you? Does he accept what you say and reasons for saying them? Does he put your wishes ahead of his own appropriately?