How do I know he loves me?

[DeathPhantom]

Okay.. well, my boyfriend told me today, that he finds other girls prettier, which I got wayy overly upset about, but didn't show it of corse..
But he says he loves me more then anyone. We're gonna move in together in about three to four years, we were together for.. eight months before his parents forced him to break up with me, cause they don't like me. [I think it's because I'm one year and a half older then him.] But now we're together again and he's keeping us a secret.
We're currently in a long distance relationship. Uhh.. we're commited to each other and talk about plans together a lot.
He ussaly calls me beautiful, and honey, not really hot, which I think is a good thing..

But yeah.. I'm just a little way to upset and want to know what other people think..

We're still pretty young...

[FemaleOrgasm]

Ask him how he wants to be loved and check if you two are compatible.

One thing I've noticed about my friends and I, is that if we don't found a chick hot enough, we're not interested in a long-term relationship. And when we do find a chick hot enough, we tell each other about it.

This is one of the harsh realities of male sexuality.

[DeathPhantom]

Umm.. I want to be loved for my personality mainly, but I'm really sensative so it bothers me when he finds other girls prettier or anything.

We've talked about what we want in our relationship, he mainly wants a loving relationship with someone who loves him just as much as he loves me. He says he doesn't care about looks, and that I make him the happiest man alive.. What else.. once, he asked to stop having a sexual relationship so we could talk more and such.

He also has a slight brain disorder, which makes him think differently then most people. I think that's one reason who he doesn't care about looks as much..

Also, I've become friends with his best friend Shane, and he says that Erik [my boyfriend] is head over heels for me and talks a lot about me.

[Beagle]

Is that slight brain disorder possibly autism, specifically Asperger's disorder? People with Asperger's often tell the literal truth without an awareness of it's impact on the other person, whereas most of us would say "Now, you know there's no one prettier than you."

If that is the case, I think the best thing to do would be to just let the remark about the other girls being prettier slide. If most guys said that, I would say they were sending you a message. People with Asperger's don't imply things. If he has Asperger's, or another condition of the autistic spectrum, then that remark was just a statement of fact and nothing more. (I presume you don't actually think you are the prettiest girl in the world. )

[DeathPhantom]

Beagle- Thank you. ^^ He's very truthful and sweet.
And yeah, I think that's what he has if I remember correctly.
That actully makes me feel a lot better though..

It's mostly likely he loves me for me and not my body then? I hope soo..

[YourEternalRest]

I see and hear people in relationships (not just bf/gf, but also married couples) talk about how hot/sexy other people are in the presence of their significant other. Usually, they're referring to celebrities. Don't tell me there aren't other men out there that you thought weren't good looking when you were out with your bf.

[DeathPhantom]

YourEternalRest- Yeah, I knoww... ><
But no, I actully don't find anyone else attractive. It's how I am, so I usally get hurt when they don't feel the same way.
Once I fall in complete love with someone, everyone else is unattractive, it's just how my mind works. I mean yeah, I'll call my guy friends cute, but they all know it's the kind when you call a baby cute kind of thing.

[YourEternalRest]

Unless he starts to cheat on your or say he's going to break up with you for these other prettier girls, I don't think you need to worry about it.

[DeathPhantom]

Thank you. That makes me feel a lot better.. ><

[theresa]

there will ALWAYS be a woman more beautiful than you,more hot than you and more attractive than you.....and compound it with the fact that everyones idea of beauty varies.its a mess.....i dont think a man should tell his woman she isnt the most beautiful in the world to him.....yeah we know its bullshit but we want to hear it anyhow....id ask him to look up the word tact and try to use it......this will go a long way in many areas of his life