Coming out to my fiancee

[kitsunegaijin]

Well I recently just got engaged to my girlfriend and I thought I could trust her with my secret: I am bisexual. Well, she flipped. She has gay friends, bi friends and makes porn for a living, but now that I'm bisexual she hates them all. I tried to 'fix myself ' but that didn't work at all. Now I'm in therapy for all this stress, my fiancee is still with me (I really do love her) , but she hates me. She told me that. I know it is not true or she would have left but maybe she will.

Now, I find myself WANTING ROMANCE with someone else, which I know will get me in more trouble. HELP:

She says that gay/bi love is all about the sex nd the looks. I told her that every relationship was based off sex in some varying degree and people are just different.

WHAT DO I DO?

[Beagle]

Ohayou, Gaijin. (I took Japanese in college.)

First, let me applaud you for being honest with her. That is the honorable and caring way to proceed. At this point, she can either make peace with your sexuality or she can't. I think the best thing to do right now is just proceed as if nothing's wrong, and let her work through this information. If she has specific questions, you can address those but I would just let her work through this. If she can't make peace with your sexuality now, then consider yourself lucky that you found this out before you went further with your relationship. You've done your part; you've been honest and forthright. She had a right to that information, before she made the largest commitment. Just be kind, understanding, and supportive but let her figure out what this means for herself.

[Xero]

I agree, just help her understand where your coming from. Ask her if she has any questions and answer all of them for her.

If she is not understanding in the end I think you must find someone else. There is no reason to life a repressive life.

I think your emotions for someone else is because she is having an issue with it. When she gets over it and feels better I believe you will feel better and back to a normal state.

[slittylicker]

First of all, it's just my opinion but, I don't believe in bisexuality.
I believe we're capable of performing with either gender but, there is a primary orientation, Bi's just haven't admitted it yet.
Most straight men would never consider trying same sex experience, though the thought may have entered their mind.
Just because you've thought of it, doesn't mean you want to do it. To a straight man, the thought of a male, with a beard, a hairy ass, a dick, no curves, no tits, a low voice, high testosterone, low estrogen, etc. is a complete turn-off. Especially the thought of kissing one.
As well, most bi's and gays aren't faithful, so you will be a disease risk for a female partner.
"Not that there's anything wrong with that."