Am i paranoid, overreacting, jealous; or am i really being put on hold as an emergency rebound?

[Ryan from Ontario]

I don't know what category this falls under but here it goes.
I was with my girlfriend for about 2 years happy and in love with each other. After a while in the summer she seemed to drift away from me no matter how hard i tried to pull her back. In September she said she wanted to go on a break but that she still loves me and promises we will be together in the future.

Now i thought to myself maybe she just needs her own personal space but i found out that during the summer she made a new friend who came over on a student visa, this friend started hanging out with her more often in September. He is at her house for hours and is called over when her mom is gone too. She assures me that nothing is going on and that she loves me and still needs me in her life but just cant be with anyone right now.

There is no actual evidence but all my friends say "the break" is just a way to legitimize cheating with someone and that she is probably just fooling around with this guy before he goes back out of the country and that i have become the backup guy for when she is alone again.

Nothing adds up. Am i paranoid, overreacting, jealous; or am i really being put on hold as an emergency rebound for when she decides shes done playing around with this other guy?

[slittylicker]

I don't buy it. I think she's making a fool out of you.
I would think about what you want and then present it to her. If she's not willing to meet you halfay, then you have a one-sided relationship. If you are not getting your needs met, then something's wrong with this "relationship."
As a man, you have to stand your ground and not let her be the one to determine how it's going to be, when it is inconsiderate of you.


It sounds like you want cake, but she's only willing to give you crumbs.
Are you willing to settle for crumbs?

[Beagle]

I agree. This is one of those posts where I think you see the reality as well as we do and you're just needing someone to tell you what you already know. I've been there myself. Time to move on.