your friend dateing ex girl friend

[chris9299]

my name is chris and im here to ask for some answers. first of all i will say me and my ex were going out for a year in a hafe then we broke up because we were fighting about things and we had my friend wich is a guy that we did hang out with. out of the last 8 months we were toghther. he would flirt with her she did not see it. then we broke up like i said. she said she cares about how i feel. but my friend moved in on her after 2 months we broke up. and it hurt me is that wrong for a guy friend to do that when you had a long past with your girl friend pluss your friend ????
thanks chris

[Dan And Jennifer]

Hi Chris,

Of course it hurts, we're human... and we feel the loss of the break up and we're jealous of the new person with our ex partner. That's only human. And our ego tries to control them, so if they try to date a friend of ours, we try to put pressure on the friend to not date them.

But honestly, who does that help? Nobody. It's just an ego-serving act, based in jealousy. Again, only human. LOL

But once you're no longer together, you got no claim on who she dates. After all, she's going date someone, and so is he... why not date people you already know?

No it's not "wrong" for them to date. It's just hard for our human egos to accept the new relationship because of unresolved internal issues.

However, your friend flirting with your girlfriend while you were still with her is NOT cool.

[brokenhearted20m]

yeah its rediculously fucked up that he was flirting with her while you guys were dating, i would have kicked his ass for that or at least called him out on it.....but if they like each other then you cant keep them apart and your just going to lose both of them if you try to control it

[Confused in Texas]

well put brokenhearted20m. unfortunately we cant controll who they date. i know it's really hard to move on when we know that someone close to you is with a girl you truly care about. it almost feel like u got something snatched from u doesn't it? theres really not much you can do about this situation, people are gonna do what people want

[chris9299]

well got you i know i said this on the other fourm but ill say it here to big time here go and read this True Storey that needs help. i need advice if you can
i know its long yes but if you want to know where i am really comeing from on the lots of ?s i have what i have gone threw and whats going on in today of my life. well there you go i will also tell you that well really it has messed me up to have other realshionships so yea thanks all for the info
chris

[chris9299]

well you know what i wish someone can post on youtube or post thats a sucky thing to do to another friend and when your with someone not to do that kind of crap to them.