bungie

That is a hard one Bungy as most women think that their men only wont them to go with another guy to open the door for them to go with other women, “as a lot of men do”.
We have run the gauntlet over a period of 25 + years in the lifestyle, starting from her first ever time with another guy when she was 35 (I had taken her cherry when she was 19), to swinging and swapping and even after all that it was still hard enough to convince her that my main pleasure was seeing “or knowing” that she had been with other man.
When we started off at 35 the swinging and swapping was fantastic but as you get older to be honest it’s not worth the hassle of trying to meet other couples where the four of you can all hit it off after the initial lust wears off so that’s when I bought up the M F M threesomes (I am not BI) but I loved seeing her go with other guys and going seconds. After trying it, “and she liked it and got off on it” it was her suggestion that we have the occasional F M F threesome just to even things up (the wife is not Bi either) which we did try but it was no where as erotic as seeing her going with other guys as I explained to her two can go into one a lot more then one into two and with another woman there I had to do my best to satisfy both women “which was not easy” and the wife did not get off on seeing me going with another woman so all in all it was a bit of a waste of time except for me getting my rocks off with another woman.
I don’t see how this can help you explain things to your wife but it is my feelings on the situation, and I wish you all the best with your quest mate!
PS, we have now been married 45 years.