Sin Secret

thanks for your post. We've had the discussion that it really concerns me that the biggest issue in our marriage is sex. That and money are the two biggest things couples get divorced over right? I want to make it work, I want to compromise, but we're just not finding any common ground here. I want to go to counseling but he refuses. I would definitely give some on my side, like go to a sex club, try a threesome, etc, but he's really stuck on anal. He thinks I'm being close minded and conservative and just don't want to do it and it's a mental block but it just does not feel good and it does not make me feel sexy whatsoever. He says after his experiences with his previous wife, "plain" or "standard" sex, meaning just the two of us, vaginally, whatever, is just boring to him.

I have tried to come up with a counter example of something I might want that if he didn't want it how I would handle that but I can't think of anything. Ideally, yes, he should just respect me and my body and it shouldn't be such a huge issue but I know it won't be that easy.
thank you for taking the time to reply