Temporary departure

[YourEternalRest]

I don't know how much sense I will make in this post but I'll do what I can.

Lately I have been going through some rough times and thinking about things I don't want to think about. I know I can probably say some of my problems here and I'm I will get some advice but I have decided to try to find a solution my own way. Some of my troubles are based on sex and romance, or lack thereof in my case. However, there is more to it than just that.

I won't say that I'm completely unhappy but I know that I for quite some time now, I have not been able to feel happy or even satisfied for an extended amount of time. There always seems to be something happening in life or something happening in my mind that prevents me from being able to be in a good mood.

Though it has only been a few months since I've joined this board, I hope that out of my 350+ posts, I was able to at least somewhat helpful. If what I've posted has helped even one person in their relationship problems, then I think I did the right thing.

I'm not sure when I'll come back. It probably won't be until after I'm done with my final exams. This is actually part of the reason why I feel I need to leave for the time being. Classes have become tougher I find that I have a problem with staying focused during lectures sometimes. When I am in my math class and I'm daydreaming about receiving a blowjob while the professor is explaining an equation, that's not going to help when it's time for an exam.

If I said I didn't think about wanting to have sex or wanting to be in a relationship, I would be lying. At this point, I just don't want to have a girlfriend. But this is where mind and feelings aren't working well together. With going to college full time, working part time, and planning my future, my priorities are set. I wish there was a way to not let feelings of attraction get in the way of all this but it's just not working.

That's not the only problem that I've been having lately but it's definitely one of the biggest. I won't go into details about other problems I'm having right now since this is already long enough as it is.

Take care, everyone. Hopefully when I come back I will be more clear headed and focused.

[Beagle]

Best wishes. I hope whatever is happening turns out for you. I think you did help a lot of people by giving insight. Sometimes we all just need perspective from someone who isn't in the situation. We hope to see you back when you can. You're always more than welcome.

[Xero]

Good luck in all of your endeavors.

I for a fact know you have helped people out on here, so you did in fact accomplish your goal.

I hope you complete your goals in life for college and the future abroad. I also hope that you do find out what is causing you such dismay. It will be different with out you giving advice on the forums but I think ill cope with it after a time.

If you wonder if anyone will miss you I will.

Again Good Luck.

[Dan And Jennifer]

We all need to follow our hearts and do what we feel is right, including following our own special path...

Originally Posted by YourEternalRest

I don't know how much sense I will make in this post but I'll do what I can.

Lately I have been going through some rough times and thinking about things I don't want to think about. I know I can probably say some of my problems here and I'm I will get some advice but I have decided to try to find a solution my own way. Some of my troubles are based on sex and romance, or lack thereof in my case. However, there is more to it than just that.

If I could offer a suggestion... and this may or may not appeal to you... but you could create a separate account here in the Forums and see if we could help with some ideas for the issues you're facing. at least that would be helpful if you're trying to keep these issues "separate".

Then again, some time for reflection may be just what the doctor ordered... you decide what feels the most right. you just don't have to be alone in it if you don't want to be.

Originally Posted by YourEternalRest

If I said I didn't think about wanting to have sex or wanting to be in a relationship, I would be lying. At this point, I just don't want to have a girlfriend. But this is where mind and feelings aren't working well together. With going to college full time, working part time, and planning my future, my priorities are set. I wish there was a way to not let feelings of attraction get in the way of all this but it's just not working.

I've been there, tried to do the same thing when I was younger. I focused all my attention and my energy on my first business, always focusing on work, everything was great, it was growing fast and doing very well, but I didn't want to admit that in reality I was quite lonely.

We are by nature pack animals, that's just such a primal urge - not just sex, but more importantly to have a partner, another being that is key in your life, that is your best friend, your mate.

I don't think we can totally ignore our built-in programming, but we certainly can try to steer it "in the right direction" and be "smart" about it.

Originally Posted by YourEternalRest

Take care, everyone. Hopefully when I come back I will be more clear headed and focused.

Indeed I think you've helped many with your thoughts and insights. Come back when you are ready, we're looking forward to it.

** And good luck with your exams!!!

Dan