no luck dating on line with both paid and free dating sites

[sweetwayne]

i have tried a couple true.com and hell no luck there at all and i tried a free one and all i got i'm not there type so my luvk on on line dating not good thought about others but to scared to try now

[nacoma90]

Hi,

I wanted to tell you that I have had a bit of luck at plentyoffish.com. You should give it a try. Just weed out the ones you dont want, and just give it a go. Maybe you could also try doing something new in your community.

[brbrhej]

I can totally understand how you feel. This is how I was for pretty long time. You must be disapointed too and I guess, you would like some ideas about what to do about your problem.Here are some thoughts that pop on my mind connected to your post here:

I do not know for how long have you been trying..but basically no matter for how long, keep going. It sometimes takes time (sometimes lots of time) to find the right person. But if you do not give up, you will probably find. This reminds me of a joke: Why do you always find what you are looking for, in the last place? - because you stop looking for it once you have found it. :-) SO keep looking.

You might want to edit your profile. I did mine as Dan and Jennifer recomended on this web sight (like how to write a profile, to put pictures, etc.) and it really helped. This may increase interest of other poeple in you. The more people see your profile, the more likely someone will be interested in you. When I search I can get to know a lot about a person from the choice of photographs he makes (it is not the way he looks as much it is the choice of photographs: compossition, places the picture is taken, estetic value of it (well I am an artists so it counts for me), is he alone or with someone or something, (I do not go for guys who put pictures of themselves next to their new cadilack or motobike- but this does not mean al women are like me) his eyes...dont know how to exlain, but I subconsciously get lots of info from eyes, what kind of clothes he wears...I am maybe better in articulating these visual things, but subconsciously picture talks to all of us very strongly. I firts look at the picture and then read the profile. Popele who do not invest energy and time to write a good profile are not my kind of popele, since they probably are not serious about looking or are not good in articulating theselves which later on may complicate comunication (this is somethiing important for me, my generalization, and it might not be true for you).

Maybe your searching criterias can be a bit widened. I am saying this, but I really do not knowwhat is in your profile, nor how you search. MAybe you can open up and search not in area of 50 miles, but 100 miles, or say that you do not look exclusivly for a person who is interested in long term relationship, but who had also dating in the profile....Maybe you can see what are the criterias which are not so important for you and be fleaxable in those. But do not give up things which are really essencial for you... like if you cannot imagine yoourslef with a woman being taller than you, than be specific about it. (I want to have kids, for example, so if someone is putting a no way to kids, then I am probably not going to skip contacting that person).
Invest time in searching. You may like to see firts profiles of people who have viewed your profile. This may mean that they already showed some interest in you for some or the other. and it takes time, it is work to search, so make time to do it. Fried elephants will probaly not fall in your plate juts by themselves.

I do think that what the previous answerer said, that searching not only online is a good idea...if you have chance to meet new paople in that way, go for it. Do some fun stuf, choire, dancing, hiking, anything that envolves othe rpoeple....have fun and the right person may just show up. You never know. I personally don't have opportunity for that so much, so internet is a big help for me.

I also find important the was how a guy approaches me. If he sends me a coppy paste letter, which is obvious same text he sends to every single woman, then he is off. I want to be special, I want to know what atracted him to contact me. So what works for me is a short letter (when it is firts one) where he tells something about himself and also tells me what did he like in my profile. This already makes connection. I do the same when I approach poeple.
Once there was a guy who wrote me several really really long letters about himself. he was all the time talking only about himslef, psycholanalising himself and was never asking anythin about me. Eventually, I stoped being interested in him pretty soon, since it was only he who existed in the story.
In any case if you are doing all what I mentioned, then I have no idea what can you do more but keep doingMaybe other popele will give you some more answers on here. I hope my answer helped you a a bit and encourraged you not to give up.