How/What is the right way to ask someone to date?

[LoverMan3194]

hello, my name is jonathan and im 14. it's kinda hard for me to get a girlfriend.........because im overwieght and all . there are many girls at my school that i would love to get to personally know. if you can help me or have any questions please reply to this and someone help me

[brokenhearted20m]

make her laugh.....have confidence in yourself and dont even think about being overweight.....maybe join a sport to get noticed around school, trust me dude i know i went through the same thing i alls you need is confidence and humor

[billy g.]

Yes! don't worry at all about being overweight..it really doesn't matter as long as you're confident. my dad once said to me that "women just want someone who is not afraid to talk to them because most people are intimidated by good looking women". so basically, just don't be afraid, women are just people too and u can talk to them and get to know them just like anyone else. hell, i followed his advice and i met the love of my life when i was 13 just by talking to here because she looked lonely. we've been together for a little over 3 years now and she even lives with me.

so just remember...women don't bite, there's nothing to be afraid of. just be your self and talk to them, make them smile, maybe ask them if they wanna hang out or something. then you can move up to asking them out ...just remember the worst that can happen is they say "no" and u move on (people fear being rejected but..it's not really that bad).

i'm kinda tired so i'm not sure if that made any sense but..

hope this helps,
-Bill

[sammiwammi]

i know exactly where ur coming from. i'm not overweight, but i'm not the skinniest girl in my grade. but don't worry about being overweight. if u do u'll become less confident in yourself when u ask a girl out. girls like a guy with confidence. so just be yourself and don't worry if girls don't like you because you're overweight.

[FemaleOrgasm]

Leadership/status is the most attractive (super) trait to women. It has many components. Here's some to start you off:

Body language: Stand tall (but have relaxed shoulders) , take up space and don't break eye contact until the other person does. Don't fidget or let your eyes dart around.

Voice: Speak with a loud resonating voice and just a little bit slower than normal. Use more pauses. Hum all the time to develop resonance. Avoid the high-pitched, fast , whiney, approval-seeking "nice-guy" voice.

Words: Your sentence structure is short and simple. You use simple words because you're more interested in getting your message in the other person's head quickly rather than trying to sound intelligent. The ironic thing is that explaining things simply makes you sound intelligent.

Personality:

Resilience: You don't experience many negative emotions. It takes a lot for you to feel stress. You have a rapid rebound time. You don't complain or criticize. Even if you feel stress, you APPEAR cool, calm and collected.

Extraversion: You are relaxed and feel a lot of positive emotions. You are optimistic. You walk towards other people and start conversations. You have high self-esteem (you like yourself). You make other people feel good about themselves.

Explorer: You continually learn new things. Your life is filled with many interests and hobbies (this makes you interesting and mysterious). You like to visualize your goals. You love art and music.

Focused: You move towards your goals (rather than moving away from problems), You focus on one thing at a time until you've finished. You don't multi-task (because this causes stress, is unproductive and lowers your IQ more than smoking pot), You focus your attention for 2 hours at a time then you take a break for 20 minutes where you are completely unplugged. You continually improve yourself and your products. You eliminate distractions like cell phones, email, TV etc when you focus on your projects. When you focus, you are completely relaxed and in the zone.

Challenger: You don't let other people dominate you. You punish all bad behavior (build an arsenal of constructive criticism, witty insults, legal skills and martial arts skills). You say NO calmly (ie NOT arrogantly) to people or things that don't meet your high standards. You can become a vicious mad dog if someone crosses the line. Stop apologising for being you. Unless you break the law or act like a jerk, you've got nothing to be sorry for. Give yourself permission because no one ever will. Say to yourself “I give myself permission to do that thing and I deserve to have it.” You are OK with the reality that no one really cares about you, well at least not the way you care about yourself. You are OK with the reality that most people are focused on their own problems and they don't want to hear you complain. Most people couldn't care less if you were successful or not so stop seeking their approval. You are cocky AND funny. You say and do things that are part cocky AND part funny. Don't do too much cocky because you'll come off as an arrogant jerk. Don't use too much funny because you'll come off as goofy. “C & F” could also be described as ball-busting or playfully teasing. This is a counter-intutitve way of communicating with women that makes them extremely attracted to you. You can tell you're doing it right when she's laughing, pretending to be mad with you and playfully hitting you. Always end the interaction with women a little to soon and on a positive note.This will make them what you even more and they'll be thinking about you all the time.

Nutrition: Stop eating junk food. Junk food puts toxins in your body and if your body isn't very good at pumping those toxins out, they will accumulate in your fat cells. Your fat cells will then hold more water to dilute the toxins and then you blow up and get fat. Start eating fresh organic meat, nuts, veges and fruit. If you want a snack, have a glass of water and an orange. Drink lots of wheat grass because this will pump the toxins out of your body. Water will leave your fat cells and you will loose weight. Also have a colon cleanse to remove undigested faecal matter. Google "colon cleanse" and you'll see exactly what I mean. Read "The Weight Loss Cure They Don't Want You To Know About" by Kevin Trudeau. The cure is hCG (human chorionic gonadotropin).

Exercise: Get a skipping rope and start skipping for 10 minutes at a time because it's like a 30 min run. Join a kickboxing class because you'll learn to defend yourself, you will loose fat fast and you'll become mega fit. After a couple of years, you will have abs, pecs and sculpted arms and legs.

[HelloImJon]

great post female Orgasm!!!
i've read the whole thing and it helps

i've found i need to work on the challenger part. i'm not used to being a jerk and i'm not the jerk type. i just don't like to piss people off. i don't think i'm good with being cocky& funny and i think thats part of the reason i haven't had much luck with girls

how can i work on this?

[brbrhej]

hay jonny! I am glead you are getting asnwers here! with all this help you will soon become the Casanova of your school. :-) I wish you all the best.

Femele orgasm: wow what an anwer! sounds like a personal program for jon. Do you have somethings similar for girls? Please let me know. Im asking you seriously.

Barb

[Beagle]

I just wish he had of been around when I was in high school.

[FemaleOrgasm]

Leadership/status is the most attractive (super) trait to women. It has many components. Here's some to start you off:

Body language: Stand tall (but have relaxed shoulders) , take up space and don't break eye contact until the other person does. Don't fidget or let your eyes dart around.

Voice: Speak with a loud resonating voice and just a little bit slower than normal. Use more pauses. Hum all the time to develop resonance. Avoid the high-pitched, fast , whiney, approval-seeking "nice-guy" voice.

Words: Your sentence structure is short and simple. You use simple words because you're more interested in getting your message in the other person's head quickly rather than trying to sound intelligent. The ironic thing is that explaining things simply makes you sound intelligent. But, don't be so “logical” and “technically correct” when talking to women because this bores them. Instead be “cocky and funny”. See below for details.

Personality:

Resilience: You don't experience many negative emotions. It takes a lot for you to feel stress. You have a rapid rebound time. You don't complain or criticize. Even if you feel stress, you APPEAR cool, calm and collected.

Extraversion: You are relaxed and feel a lot of positive emotions. You are optimistic. You walk towards other people and start conversations. You have high self-esteem (you like yourself). You make other people feel good about themselves.

Explorer: You continually learn new things. Your life is filled with many interests and hobbies (this makes you interesting and mysterious). You like to visualize your goals. You love art and music.

Focused: You move towards your goals (rather than moving away from problems), You focus on one thing at a time until you've finished. You don't multi-task (because this causes stress, is unproductive and lowers your IQ more than smoking pot), You focus your attention for 2 hours at a time then you take a break for 20 minutes where you are completely unplugged. You continually improve yourself and your products. You eliminate distractions like cell phones, email, TV etc when you focus on your projects. When you focus, you are completely relaxed and in the zone.

Challenger: You don't let other people dominate you. You punish all bad behavior (build an arsenal of constructive criticism, witty insults, legal skills and martial arts skills). You say NO calmly (ie NOT arrogantly) to people or things that don't meet your high standards. You can become a vicious mad dog if someone crosses the line. Stop apologising for being you. Unless you break the law or act like a jerk, you've got nothing to be sorry for. Give yourself permission because no one ever will. Say to yourself “I give myself permission to do that thing and I deserve to have it.” You are OK with the reality that no one really cares about you, well at least not the way you care about yourself. You are OK with the reality that most people are focused on their own problems and they don't want to hear you complain. Most people couldn't care less if you were successful or not so stop seeking their approval. You are cocky AND funny. You say and do things that are part cocky AND part funny. Don't do too much cocky because you'll come off as an arrogant jerk. Don't use too much funny because you'll come off as goofy. “C & F” could also be described as ball-busting or playfully teasing. This is a counter-intutitve way of communicating with women that makes them extremely attracted to you. You can tell you're doing it right when she's laughing, pretending to be mad with you and playfully hitting you. Always end the interaction with women a little to soon and on a positive note.This will make them what you even more and they'll be thinking about you all the time.