Help

[Steve E]

Well I Have been with my girlfriend for a year and 5 months,and have been pretty happy,but recently have asked her about her past boyfriends.She told me that she had sex with 5 other guys.I have not had sex with no one else other than her,my first sex partner,so it's being pretty hard to accept it. How do I deal with this?

[fawkse]

it's scary when we realize that our lover's shared their bodies with someone else. we become insecure, jealous, and angry!!!
these are natural human reactions...
to deal with this fact, i remind myself that he's in my bed. i'm the one whom he does this with every night, or at least every night. i am the one he comes home to after work. he enjoys what i can do for him. he longs and teaes me through out the evening about our sexual play time...
this works for me.
i also remind myself that i enjoy what he does for me. i hardly find myself thinking back to another momment with someone else, becuase he satisfies me.
maybe, it could be thought of her having practice sessions before you both got together.
having a little sexual history with mutiple partners shouldn't scare you all too much. mostly, you fears are coming from the idea that she has been else where while you have only had her.
another possible cure, try sex outside of the realtionship. sex is different with a different partner. (please consider talking to her before you go out and cheat... this is actually a bad idea for your realtionship without her consent)
you are feeling normal gitters. just realx and talk to your girlfriend. let her know your real intimate feelings on this subject. i'm sure she will be more than happy to boost your confidence.
good luck
~fawkse~

[Steve E]

Thank you so much also may I add that she says that she's uncomfortable talking to me about her past and she says it shouldn't matter what she did in the past, i know it shouldn't but it's hard to realize that im not her first sex partner.