Can I Truly Be Happy?

[sunshine]

Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 years and we love each other dearly but latly i have been feeling like im not happy or its hard for him to please me and im confused my self at whats wrong, but i do know im unhappy because he dosent want me going out, dancing movies, bowing etc with no one and he is a home body stays in the house and go to work and its hurts that he isnt willing to try and be more outgoing for me and i have tried being quiet and doing things his way(staying in the house) and i ended up loosing all my friends so now im sad and depressed and pretending things are ok when there not just so he can be hapy because i would never want to hurt him! so can anyone please help me make sence of what i should do and ways i can be happy in my realtionship and be grateful

also do you think after a certain number of years yours supposed to stop dating and going out and settle to a calm routine of being in a relationship becaus ethat his philosophy on dating

[Saishuu]

no your still supposed to go out after years and years, its a good healthy thing to do in a relationship.

His way sounds like a cliche husband for desperate unsatisfied lonely housewives everywhere (please excuse my humour).

Sunshine, it really sounds like you KNOW what will make you happy & denying yourself will only make you want to want it more, therefore you must do it.

And don't worry your friends won't hate you, its actually great to hear from a old friend and meet up.

So get in contact & drag your boyfriend (& if he doesn't want to come he doesn't have to).

If he forbids you to go out you really have to question do you want to stay like this?

[yuki]

Sunshine congrats on 2 years
but like Saishuu said, do you really want the relationship to be like that?
i mean i understand you want to keep him happy, but you have to be happy as well.
It's ok to be selfish and think of this, you have the right.
You have to, if you want a more successful relationship.

[FemaleOrgasm]

A huge cross-culture study on happiness was done and they found that the most important thing for happiness was friendships, more specifically deep connections with other people.

Another study found that people have an average of 0.75 best friends. How sad is that?

Your boyfriends restrictions are making you unhappy and if you continue to allow him to imprison you, you will fall into clinical depression.

So get out and deeply reconnect with your best friends so you can be happy.