he doesnt find me sexually atractive anymore....what do i do?????

[dottyluvspierre]

Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and all of a sudden he doesn't want to have sex with me so i straight out asked him if he was cheating on me and and he said no so I kept on asking him why he doesn't have sex with me and he told me he doesn't find me sexually attractive anymore cause Ive never gained weight easy and now because of him I did, i lost my virginity to him and started taking birth control what do i do?

[fawkse]

you can not force him to find your body attractive. it's natural to have our bodies grow more shall we say, old lol. we can not change the fact that one day, we will no longer look like a porn star or model, that goes for both male and female.
i think most the members here will aggree with me when i say that infactuation with one's body does wear over time. most of us accept this, and we find that our relationships are based on more deeper aspects than how we look naked or clothed.
i am sorry that he is treating you this way. i know how you feel. my son's natural father use to say things to me. he would tell me that if i didn't loose my pregnancy weight, he would leave me. he would say that i was unnatractive, becuase i wouldn't do certain things for him. the kicker here is that this man was never a 'looker' in the first place. he was overweight, and not to mention plainly unnactractive to my eyes... the irony lol...
i don't think it's really how sexy you are that is his problem. i think he has issues with his own self esteem, and he's projecting them on you.
try talking with him some more.you could try to compliment him, and make him feel sexy and wanted. that might start his sex drive up. you could incite a little porn into a night time movie watch. pick something out that he would find erotic. most guys, (sorry if i am stero typing here) like good oral stimulation. pick out a movie clip with a good nasty session, and then rip his pants off and tell him you could do it better. just an idea. you know what turns him on, so use your imagination...
if things are not going to work out for the better here, i would say that there is more problems here than being bored sexually.
take some time to think about other areas of your relationship that are not going smoothly. those little problems can get in the way of having sex. try to work them out with him. if he is unresponsesive, then you might be just banging your head against a brick wall.
don't ever think this is all your fault, no matter what. the relationship is a job both of you have to keep on. you can not take blame, and pick up his slack if he's not doing his part. if he isn't willing to do his part to make the relationship, you are just going to have end the relaitonship.
it's sad, but would you want to spend the rest of your life trying to make him happy with you.
believe me when i tell you that your life is worth much more than this. there is a person out there that will treasure you and everything you have to offer.
true love does exist. it's rare, and it's hard to reconize somtimes. it wont cause you pain and humiliation. it will comfort you, and it will help you feel complete. it's not perfect, but it would never keep you unsatisfied.
good luck,
~fawlse~