What do you think about having sex with someone else while being broken up and then lying about it?

[Lilly]

Ok, is having sex with someone else after breaking up a wrong thing to do? or what happen with my situation me and my ex bf now got back together and he asked me if i did anything with the other guy and i said no... yes i know i lied but at the time i had so much regret with wat i just did i didnt want to hurt him... i didn't do anything oral with him it was just sex! the reason why i went of with this guy was bc my ex pushed me away and basically said go find another guy so that wat i did... i was a one time thing!!! anyways when we broke up this last time he pissed me off so i told him about wat really happen btw the other guy,... and i really hurt him and now we are talkign 6 months after.... we saw eachother twice just as friends to talk but we end up fighing bout wat i did.... IT's not like i cheated on him bc i didn't bc we were not together.. but wat really bothers him is the fact that i did that and also bc i kept it from him!!!!

Please give me as much advice as you can bout this...i need help

thanks

[kettlekorn]

He should be mad about you keeping that information from him. Not only did you lie when he asked you specifically, later you tried to hurt him while you two were in an argument by using that as leverage. My guess is you succeeded. You hurt him.

Do you just want to ask "who is right, who wins", or do you want to know how to get back together?

[Dan And Jennifer]

Great point Kettlekorn... indeed, we lose so much sometimes to "win" an argument and stroke the ego.

Here's a little more background / flavor on the situation, the original thread on this situation: I Need Help and Advice About My One Night Stand!! How can i get my boyfriend back?.

[Lilly]

we were not together at that time, plus i know i made a mistake and i wanted to forget bout wat i did.... i didn't want to hurt him, so that why i didn't tell him!
i told him when we broke up the last time bc i felt that he needed to no since the relationship was officially over.....

he was the one who pushed me away in the first place, he put me down and made me feel that i was nothing... so that y i did wat i did!

i'm i the only one who feels and thinks that..im not the horrible one here??