Me and my best friend have liked these 2 best friends for 2 years, but theyre shy! so help!

[kelseyyy93]

hi im a 9th grade girl who just got out of a bad relationship and i have a big problem. Me and my best friend like these 2 guys who r also best friends who r also very shy with asking girls out. Okay so we've liked these best friends since 7th grade. We dont know how to go about tryin to start a relationship with them cuz we doubt they r going to ask us out because of how shy they are. Though we dont know if they like us, and they dont tell ppl who they like. Whats weird is my best friend and the guy i like went to elementary school together and me and the guy my best friend likes went to elementary school together. And in 6th grade the 2 guys became best friends which happened to me and my best friend. We both relle relle like them and honestly there are so many weird connections between the 4 of us we feel its meant to happen, but we dont know what to do! Plz help us decide how to go about trying to make this relationship happen! We relle need all the advice we can take!

[BrassPlayer4Life]

Basically, talk to them more about casual topics. Ask them how their day was and what classes they have. Once you talk more, ask them more personal things about their lives. Once that happens (after a few days), if they don't ask you out, ask them out (it's okay). Yes girls can ask guys out, and they will even be thankful you did because it puts off lots of pressure off of them. Flirt with them, but make it playful flirting. Ask their friends what they do and they'll probably hear about it from their friends and wonder. To tell you the truth, most guys are shy when asking girls out because of fear of rejection. *Note* Everything will take a while, anwhere from 3 weeks to even months, depending on how often you see them and talk to them. If you see them everyday and always talk to them, it should go by pretty quick.

Here are ways to tell if a guy likes you:
1) He'll lean closer to you and never turn his back to you
2) If he's shy, he'll probably look away quickly when you make eye contact, but if he's confident, he'll keep the stare
3) He'll talk about himself if he's nervous
4) He might touch you for very small achievements like answering a question right
5) He'll treat you differently (for better or for worse)
6) Check for nervousness signs such as sweaty palms or nervous laughter; when you call his name, his head will snap around (that means he likes you)
7) Watch how his friends act when you're around (they might watch you if they know)
8) If your conversation gets interrupted, he will continue talking about whatever you were talking about and act like it never happened
9) If he likes you, he will be around you a lot in the same general area and will try to make eye contact with you or watch you a lot

I did #s 1, 3, 4, 5, 6, 8, and 9 around the girl I like , so the odds are if he's doing 4 or more, he likes you.

Basically just talk to them about casual topics and eventually they'll warm up to you if they like you and talk to you more often.

So, just keep me updated with your situation and I'll see if I can help you out more when you need it. You can even type out what they did around you and what you talked about and I'll see if I can tell if they like you or not. Best of luck to you both!

[kelseyyy93]

thank u so much for ur advice. srry i didnt get back sooner. I forgot. but it turned out the boy liked me just as much as i liked him and we've been dating for 5 weeks now with no problems. Its going very well.

[BrassPlayer4Life]

Hey, that's great! That's okay that you forgot, I understand.

Well, best of luck to you both; may your relationship last long and be wonderful! If you have any other questions, feel free to ask anytime.

>> Jake

[kelseyyy93]

Thank you .

Hahah now that u mention it. i need alittle advice. Yesterday we got in a fight and he cried. Now i dont know if he was actually as sad as he made it seem. Hisface was all red and he was really quiet. I know boys have a way of making it seem like they are really sorry and sad, but its just because they dont wanna be in trouble. So what should i think?

[BrassPlayer4Life]

Well, first of all, whoever started the fight should say they're sorry. Even if you didn't start the fight, just apologize anyway and get it out of the way; it makes everything better right away.

Secondly, to answer your question, it's sort of hard to tell. Everyone is different so when he is angry or sad, it might be a different type of anger or sadness. Just say you're sorry and he'll understand and apologize too. Don't worry about it, relationships all have their ups and downs.

>> Jake