Emotional roller coaster ride!

[123latin321]

Hello Ladies and Gents

My ex broke up with me 2 1/2 months ago, she didnt break up with me straight away she claimed that she didnt know if she wanted this relationship no more... we were with each other for 4 years. during the break up i went through all the crazy things like txt messaging, ringing, telling her how much i loved her, but all to no success. she treated me as if i was some sort of stranger to her, like we had not shared nothing!

our relationship itself was up and down, as i had problems with trusting her, however things were starting too look great until one night she dissappeared with out not call or txt, the following morning she rang as if nothing wrong had happened, my immediate thought was that she had met someone else to not call me, she claimed she was out after work and stayed at her sisters house..... she never used to go out much during the relationship although she should have been because we are both still young.

anyway after that event she kept saying she loved me but didnt know whether she wanted to be with me, i was determined she had met someone else on that thursday night, so i started giving her the space, as i was started to feel rejected by how she was treating me... a week later she rang me telling me she loved me and thinks we should take things slow, i agreed! but then she went cold on me again! then just over a week later she messaged me saying "she doesnt want this relationship, she wants more out of life then just me." i just told her have a good life and ill be here for you if you need me take care. Now i dont know if she has met someone else, but im thinking its just she wants to go out and do the things young ladies do, i miss her like mad and love her alot, it has been a little of a week since she sent me that message, and im thinking if there was any chance i could get her back? say something or do something?

i was the best boyfriend i know that, but there is no way i can show her how i changed.... i have realised the cause of the break up but cant show her because she wont let me get close....

any advice would be great, thank you very much

[Saishuu]

Just give her a few months, keep yourself sane by trying to find someone else (enjoy yourself).

after those few months invite her out casually, then try to woo her likes its a brand new relationship.

The key here is don't wait around though, try find someone new, and find her new again.