Was my girl, now we're best friends, but I want more!

[tiago_vc]

I'm a 28 year old male from Brazil and I'm in love with my best friend. I met her at work, we started talking till one day we went out. A few weeks later we kissed and we kept going out for 3 months, then when I realized... it was over.

Almost two years passed and we still talk a lot via IM or SMS, we go to the movies, go travel together with her friends... we have a lot in common, to the point we can talk the whole afternoon about anything - except her love life nowadays (she knows I dont wanna know about it).

She was the first girl I had ever been with. No wonder this ended as I had no previous experience in dating or being with girls. Now I felt I should've been more 'aggressive' when I was with her, and other 'mistakes' I would not do again.

I know she's having problems with her current boyfriend, and I dont want to become her 'gay friend', It'd be a nightmare. Should I try to kiss her next time we went out? Should I tell her how I feel? What should I do? Thanks a lot.

[Saishuu]

Was going to say don't try and kiss her,

Was going to say wait until she's through with her boyfriend...

But I need to say this to you...

If you have 10 other girls... do you think you'll care so much about this one?

No? Good!

go have 10 other girls... after that (if you still want her) this one will be easy putty in your hands.

[tiago_vc]

When I think about her, being only a little reasonable, I can see your absolutely right, the problem is when I meet other girls and realize I'm not having 20% of the fun I had with her...

But I guess you're right, if I was sure she felt the same way about me I'd go for it,
meanwhile, even knowing I'd be happier to take our friendship to another level, I won't risk losing her.

Thanks, Saishuu!

[Saishuu]

I know how you feel,

"Some really good advice my mum gave me once was, you'll get over her & you won't even know what you saw in her, we've all been there and done that."

Shes right y'know

You gotta get into a relationship with another girl before you start asking the questions of if you'll be happy.

You need to ask "am I happy with this girl".

[FemaleOrgasm]

If you do, she's going to treat you like her girlfriend. Be a man. Keep the caring, supportive side of you and add in sexy masculine traits. Eg, playfully tease her. You'll know you're doing it right because she's laughing and playfully hitting you. This will make her naturally attracted to you and then she'll also want something more than a friendship.