Sex is boring and of no interest after I cum, any suggestions?

[Sam in Florida]

Me and my husband have been married for 4 years now and to be honest I have no interest in sex with him. I feel like I am always the one taking care of myself and I can dothe same thing alone. He is a lil smaller than the average size but I dont feel that its just that. I mean we have had a lto of ups and downs in our marriage, and alot more downs here recently. I just dont like feeling like everytime we have sex that I hate it. I have to think of something else to take care of myself and after I have cum I have no interest but I pretend to in order to make him happy. And I know its been more than 8 months minimum since I was actually fully satisfied. I just dont know if its our problems or the fact that he hasnt taken care of me sexually in so long that is our big problem. It used to be a problem that he was so quick to cum, now I cant wait for it to be over! Any advice on what I can do or what I can get him to do without having to just do it myself or making him mad?

[Lovin'Lace]

I know little about marriage, but I do know a lot about sex.
You say he's smaller than average size? There are things that can help. A good sex toy like a cock ring to stop the orgasm for him and keep him hard longer. There's also naturally enhanced non-viagra pills he can take at a health store like GNC if you have one near you. They help with size too. Like half an inch or so.

Another possible reason for you not having the good kind of orgasms performed by your husband is maybe that you two need to go to the gym more often, its been definitely linked that fitness = better sex, plus eating more healthy foods helps. Try adding more veggies and fruit in, especially onions, they activate a certain hormone in your body, you can look it up if you like.

Hope this helped.

[joe in memphis]

I always make sure the woman I am with climaxs at least three times. In fact I would be upset if she didn't. I have a six inch cock of average girth. Intercourse is not everything. There is cunninglus and massages. If he is too small maybe you should consider leaving unless you love him. I mean if you enjoy the sex it makes everything else better. I never had any problem keeping a woman. In fact performing cunninglus was one reason I couldn't get many to leave. Even if I didn't want to be with them I would make sure they were satisfied.

[FemaleOrgasm]

Ask him if he wants to learn a new kind of female orgasm called the A spot orgasm.

[Sin Secret]

You have got to talk to him about it. If he really cares about you he'll be open and responsive to what you're feeling.
Sexual frustration can ruin a relationship if the couple doesn't talk out their problems and actually understand and work on what each other wants. If you need more variety, a sex toy, more foreplay, more spice, you have to let him know! If he hasn't figured it out on his own in all this time, he's never going to!

If you don't want to flat out talk about it, suggest something that interests you.
If you think...for example, that a sensual massage will get you more interested, go buy a book about it and get him to read it.
If you want to receive more oral sex, try buying a flavored lubricant made specially for oral sex, and showing it to him. Suggest using it on each other (though you might want to make sure he uses it on you first, just to make sure he doesn't change his mind after he finishes first).
If you think he's not paying attention to your sexual needs enough, mention that you felt turned on by something or other and wish he'd try it more often, or something like that.

You get the idea, right? You need some kind of communication to break down the barriers between what you want and what he thinks you want.

If he isn't responsive, or just doesn't care, then you know you have a bigger problem on your hands.

Good luck
<3
Sin