Long distance relationship? What to do?

[strawberrygal1989]

Hey,

I will have to tell you the whole story
I'm from Bulgaria, 19 years old, and last school year i spent as an exchange student in Minessota ( damn cold!!! ).
There I met the guy of my dreams, He is like everything i ever wanted from a man,... he is my first love, and my first lover, and its the same for him too, we stared dating 3 months before i had to come back to \BUlgaria, and it was the most magical time ... we dated for a week and he said " i love you",
i felt the same way, after a month we knew we want to spend our lives together,
... I know it way sound way too exadurated but its our feeling that are so ... strong i suppose....

Time passed so fast, and i had to leave the US. That was June 8th 2008, since than we have been talki on skype every day,.. loving eachother,... having the cam sex ones in a while,...
... at first iI made us have an Open long distance relationship... than we realized we dont need that, and we closed it...
the problem is than lately he didnt had any time with holidays and school and everything... so i got back to my old habbit of online flirts and dating,... i talked to my sweety about him being gone all the time and last few days he has really changed, and he is being the sweetest thing on earth, but I really miss the intimate part of a relationship, even thou all i want is him,...
... oh, and he's comin to Bulgaria summer break just to be with me, and to meet my rents and everything, and we are planning on gettin married, and i know i want to spend my life only with him,
........... thou i miss sex...

... So i guess my question is: Should i keep it the same way, or should i had some fun for the 5 months left till he comes over....
i know i would hurt him if i do that, i just have the urge, big time,....
Do u think, even thou he's been tellin me how much he loves me and that hes truthful to me, is it possible that he's cheating,

I dont know,... any advice could help me alot....


~ Strawberry Elly~

[Beagle]

Elly: For what it's worth, we've all tried the long distance relationship thing. I will admit yours is extreme, however.

Of course, the possibility always exists that he's cheating. That possibility exists in any relationship.

Obviously, it's up to you if you want to see other people during the time you're apart. I can tell you that you will probably find someone else if you start doing that. Most long-distance relationships end up that way.

I would only encourage you to be honest and let him know if you decide to begin seeing other people. That's just the proper thing to do. When we deceive people, it leaves a scar on us. That makes future relationships harder.

It would be cruel if he did wait all that time on you just to find out you've been seeing other people. You need to give him that same right if you want to see other people. You aren't' married, and you do have every right to do that.

[FemaleOrgasm]

If you're horny, buy a vibrator.

Since he's the only guy you've slept with, you'll probably always be curious about other guys. Do you know how you could do everything?

Be faithful, get married and then be swingers!

[Ryan S.]

Great solution there, Orgasm! And I don't mean that sarcastically, lol. Seriously though, discuss seeing other people fully before doing ANYTHING you know would hurt the other partner while you're away from each other. If it works out, it works out. Is he cheating? Who knows? Possible, yes. Worthwhile to cheat just cause he might be? No.

Talk it over. Simple as that. Day to day, month to month. Be open and honest.

[Countrygirl]

Long distance romance is almost always doomed. If you have time to establish a firm foundation it can be done, but you have to have the expectation of future personal and face to face contact. Long distance relationships are very hard and require commitment. Let's face it at 19 no one is committed for very long.

[Countrygirl]

Yesterday was our 20th wedding anniversary. I thought that deserved a special something... I bought my husband this expensive revolver that he has admired for a while. He stops by a flower shop at lunch. Same thing he always does. Should I be upset? I am not really mad just really hurt that he didn't commemorate our special event. I feel that I am always the last on his list. I was so excited about his revolver. I had found something that he wanted and something that would surprise. I was more excited about getting this gift that even thinking about what he might get me, at the time I didn't care. Then when he walked in with the flowers I knew that yet again I was a last minute "gee guess I need to do something" REQUIRED gift he had to go out of his way to get. Now I really don't know how to respond to him but I am hurt.