How do I help my girlfriend get over her ex?

[slittylicker]

If she wasn't over him, why did she get in a relationship with you?
Why do you want to be with someone who has another man on her mind?
It's a "red flag."
After a lot of pain in the past, i learned to pay attention to red flags.
You're a re-bound. She didn't heal before filling the void with you. After what I went through, I get angry hearing this. I will never allow someone to do this to me again. I'd rather be alone.

Also, if she respects and cares for you, she should have no contact with him. She's doing this because you are allowing it. Did you ever hear of "Boundaries?" What are yours?

Beagle knows what he's talking about.

[kkubena]

She doesn't talk to him anymore.

After last night this is all over, she broke down and told me that she was so sorry for doing everything to me and she just really got confused after everything that had been going on. I know this is hard for a lot of you to understand but i've been put through what you are talking about but she wasn't doing this to me to see how much I would give or she could get from me.

After her sister losing her baby, her father having a heart attack everything just got so confusing for her but I thank God that she now uses me as support, a shoulder to cry on. She was afraid to do that because she thought it would scare me off somehow.

I want to thank all of you for responding!