How can you ease tension in a relationship

[Tasha in London]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for six months. our relationship is normally good and we get along really well. A few days ago we were having a disgussion about his relationship with his ex long-term girlfriend... this convosation led on to other serious relationship convosations. I was verry upset but tolerant throughout these convosations. We have come onto comon ground and has accepted wht the other has to say. our problem is now there is a lot of tension between us and he recons it is breaking our relationship to a point of no return, because he does not see the tension going away.
Help what should i do to
get rid of the tension and to avoid tension from ever happening

[K. in Cleveland]

Well, you are off to a good start, you are communicating. I don't know what the details of the conversations were so I'm not sure what the underlying issues might be. In general some issues that might create tension is trust, infidelity, sexual promiscuity, sexual activity preference, and so many many more... My feeling is that most issues do arise out of some sort of a trust issue. The main issue is that something has happened in your partner's past and one or both of you has an issue in getting past it, therefore tension arises.
Perhaps couple's counseling would help the two of you to talk about, and get through this tension.

[Beagle]

As usual, K is right on target. I agree with her assessment. An issue that was never talked through destroyed my last relationship. You two need to talk about this until you're bored with it and everyone has all their questions answered. Unresolved issues are the great destroyer of relationships. I learned that one the hard way.

You don't say what the nature of his relationship with his ex-girlfriend is. Do you think he is deceiving you about what is going on between them? If so, that's a whole different conversation.

[FemaleOrgasm]

Rub out all the knots in his back and vice versa because tension gets trapped in your muscles.

Making your body relaxed can make your mind relaxed, thus relieving tension.

Consciously relax the muscles in your face during the day as well.