Phone texting

[Kern1972]

Is there something wrong when you text her she texts you right back and tells you how much she misses you and needless to say she is a busy women,but there is time in a day to call.But she very seldom calls.Now I did leave her along for a week and when I text to say hi she called me and was planning to come see me cause she was lonesome for me.And I been noticing if I dont text her for a few days when I do text her she always telling me how she misses me,but how long can this crap go on.I will not call her till someone tells me what is the deal.

[Desperate house wife]

I am not sure, I understand your question........Are you concerned that she wont call, and will only text you? Or are you concerned that she isnt bothered when you go days without contacting her, But acts like she missed you, but obviously not enough to get ahold of you?

Samantha

[Kern1972]

Well months back she told me a girl has to play hard to get.So I did not get in touch with for 6 days to make her miss me alittle and then when I did she called.About a month ago she put texting on her phone so she can text me because where she works its kind of hard to call cause she is busy,she might text me about two time a week if that,but if I text her and tell her good morning or whatever she will always text me back and say good morning and I miss you.I kind of caught up in that hard to get crap and do you call her or let her call you.Im just getting tired of me doing all the texting first.Needless to say we are friends well a little more than friends and she did tell me that she was in love with me,but lets take it day by day and see what happens.I was just wondering if she missed my as much as she says look like she would pick up the phone.Im about to just leave her alone and then she will have a reason to say she misses me.

[Desperate house wife]

My husband says it sounds like she is not that interested in you any more. I think she is probably playin games to see how much you'll take, what you'll do, how far you'll go in these games. I say you need to sit her down, or call, whichever works, and tell her how you feel and have her tell you exactly how she feels. And tell her you dont want to play any more games, and for her to make up her mind whether or not she really wants to be with you. If things keep going the way they are, I would do as you said, and leave her alone for awhile and see what happens.

Samantha

[Kern1972]

Another thing I forgot to tell is she is going through a divorce and is not ready to be with anyone but when she is ready to have a good time I am the one she calls.Now what do you mean about seeing how far I will go.Will it hurt anything if I just leave her along.

[Desperate house wife]

I hate to say it, but givin the info on her going thru a divorce, I think she is using you for 'fun' when she wants it. Thats why she is so dismissive. And no, i think leaving here alone would be good You will end up hurt in the end, if you continue to play her games.

Samantha

[Kern1972]

Hey everyone ask anit been on here in a while and just wanted the ones who helped me with the little problem I had.I went ahead and stopped texting her for about a week and a half and she could not take it anymore.She started texting me and telling me she really misses me and other stuff.So I went another couple of days before I got back with her.She was really depressed and asked me if everything was alright.But I would not hold a long conversation with her.It was killing her.I could not keep her from texting.She can last weekend and I could not get her off of me,but I was not a prick but I showed her a little distance.She called the next night and and texts me in the morning.But Im showing her I am not wrapped around her finger.So that is how it is going for now.If anyone get a feeling what she is doing let me know.

[Beagle]

Kern: You have discovered one of the secrets of dating that many people never figure out. The natural inclination is to try to spend as much time as possible with the person. However, one secret to building attraction is to make yourself a little scarce. As my mom told me when I was a dating teenager, "Always leave when they're sad to see you go." Now that she's expressing interest, you need to respond by rewarding her by paying attention to her. I agree with Samantha, it sounds like she was either playing games or just not that into you. However, by giving her the opportunity to miss you you have increased her level of attraction. All I can say is "attaboy." You handled that well. If you're interested in her, now that you have attraction built, you can begin dating and resume more normal interactions.

I wish more young guys would read your post.

[Desperate house wife]

I agree with Beagle, I too wish more young guys would read your post. You are one of the lucky very few that have discovered this secret. I would just jump back into it yet tho, if you kept pulling away and then getting really close again, you may confuse her, and drive her away, which wouldnt be good, if she is into you for you. But dont get too close right off the bat. take it slow, and see what happens, youll find out fast if its a good thing or not.
Good luck,

Samantha

[FemaleOrgasm]

If you are needy, cling and smothering you will turn her off and drive her away.