She said i'm like a brother to her .... what should I do?

[R_H]

I've been friends with this girl for about 2-3 years, and recently began to notice I had feelings for her as more than friends. I told her I like her (although I new she already suspected). She replied: " I'm not really sure that I want to get into a relationship yet... its nothing against you or anything... I just don't know... not yet... I am sorry... I need more time... please, I hope this doesn't change anything"

I replied by saying, "thats ok, I understand ... please let me know when you have decided." It's been about 3.5 weeks, and we've hanged out once alone and twice with friends since then.

I got a mutual friend of ours to see where she's at. She replied "I think of you like a brother ... but that doesn't mean nothing can happen in the future."

What should I do; I'm looking for more of an answer than just move on and forget about her. Because I have strong feelings towards her.

FYI: we're both in high school, grade 11

[spaniard]

Looking back, I am ever so grateful that I didn't even try to get a girlfriend in high school. You will have the rest of your life to let women interfere with your life. High school is one of the only times in our lives when we have the chance to enjoy life without the complications of a relationship.

That being said...

It sounds like she doesn't know what she wants yet, and unfortunately the answer most of the time with women is "move on". In fact, it is usually the best advice. Here's why: if you keep trying to pursue her, she'll take it negatively. You will seem needy and she will have the impression that she is the only one your spending your time thinking about. There isn't much competition in that, and if you were a man with everything going for him, wouldn't more women be interested in you than just her? The other reason why "move on" is in fact the best advice is that there are millions of women on the planet, and this one may or may not be a good fit for you. You cannot control her at all, only yourself. The way to control yourself is not fall into the trap that, no matter how strong your feelings are for her, you must sense that she will reciprocate those same feelings back to you. Otherwise you are quite literally waisting your time. I also wish I had read The Game when I was in high school, so I'm passing on the advice to you.

HTH...

[FemaleOrgasm]

She will let you know straight away.

[Beagle]

Originally Posted by R_H

"I think of you like a brother ... but that doesn't mean nothing can happen in the future."

I think the remark, taken as a whole, means she's interested in someone else, but she's keeping you on the back burner if it doesn't work out. One rule of dating is to never play second fiddle. Time to move on.