I'm Confused!!!

[Confused in Texas]

My ex girlfriend just broke up with me and about two days after, she was back with the guy who she was with before i came into the picture. Before she broke up with me I noticed that she was sometimes texting someone else but i thought nothing of it. I'm not quite sure if she broke up with me because of me or if she was cheating with this guy.

[K. in Cleveland]

Dear Confused,
That's a tough one, unfortunately I don't really feel there's much anyone else could know that would be able to answer your question. It's really impossible to tell from just having some text messages sent. She sounds like she's the type to be flighty and jump from relationship to relationship in an on again/off again fashion... not really much anyone can do about that. My best advice is try to move on. Take any information you came across in this relationship and apply it to the next relationship. I like to think that no experience is wasted in life...
But, of course, your post begs the question, how did you treat her? This is a question just for you, you don't have to reply.. do you feel in your heart that you treated her right, or were there things that may have driven her away... I hope it is her and not you.

I know this doesn't sound like much help, but it's the best I can figure from what you've said.

Best of luck,
K.

[Dan And Jennifer]

In the grand scheme of things, it really doesn't matter what she was doing just before she broke up with you. Recognize that it's our ego that needs to know the answer to everything and figure out why. It needs a problem to solve.

I agree with K. Now is a good time to step back and think about what went well in this relationship and what didn't work so well. Learn from that and apply it to your next relationship.

It would also be a good time to practice a little "law of attraction" exercise and write down everything that you want in a relationship and exactly what the perfect relationship will look like to you so that you can start attracting that person to you.

[george_blue]

She was with that guy, been there and seen all that before, you have to distance yourself from disloyal people like that... you can play that game too but your feelings are involved and you'll hurt yourself. The best thing is to move on and try to meet quality people who don't play childish games like she is. When you sense something is wrong, it usually is... always trust your instincts, even in the extremely rare case that they're wrong, you'll still be glad you did.
George
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[georgy]

it is a tough one but she could have been texting anyone: a cousin, a friend, family, etc. there are numerous reasons why people break up, usually people break up simply because they lose interest, they're in the middle of a stressful time, the couple just don't have chemistry, etc. And beyond that massive list of reasons is what you have told us, where she likes another guy. so it could be any one of those reasons.