Bad timing for an erection

[shygirl79]

Just go with it, it happens (not to me though, cos I'm a girl).

Recently when I spent the night with my boyfriend, I felt him get hard up against my leg, and I know he was asleep. I didn't know whether to laugh out loud or wake him up and ask him who he was thinking about.

But it didn't bother me. I was also a virgin and he wasn't. Maybe she just needs to get used of it happening, when she's around you.

[slittylicker]

Erection occur intermittently throughout the sleep cycles.

[Nova]

Originally Posted by slittylicker

Erection occur intermittently throughout the sleep cycles.

Exactly. Who knows what he's dreaming about? I, as well as most men, wake up with erections all the time but a lot of times I can't remember what I was dreaming about that would cause it to happen.

[WhiteRoseLover1073]

Don't worry so much about it. If I were you I'd just tell her whats going on and talk about it together. I'm usually flattered when I can make a guy feel that way. We're usually okay with it as long as you don't force us to do anything we don't want to. Bottom line; you're a healthy boy, you don't have to be embarased, your body is made to act that way. Sit her down and make sure you talk. Explain whats happening and that you can't control it.

[Xero]

Originally Posted by YourEternalRest

Exactly. Who knows what he's dreaming about? I, as well as most men, wake up with erections all the time but a lot of times I can't remember what I was dreaming about that would cause it to happen.

Healthy males wake up with erections. It's completely normal and you don't have to dream before you get one.

[Beagle]

Originally Posted by Xero

Healthy males wake up with erections. It's completely normal and you don't have to dream before you get one.

A little therapy history: In the days before modern medical tests, it was hard to determine if a man's erection difficulties were psychological or physical. Some doctors and therapists would have a man fasten a band from a roll of postage stamps around his (non-erect) penis. In the morning, if the band was broken, they knew he had achieved an erection in the night and his problem was deemed to be psychological. The modern meds work whether the cause is mental or physical, so that isn't as important any more. I'm a wealth of totally useless information! But, I am in demand for partnering in Trivial Pursuit.

[Jake in chattanooga]

We are young and we cant control what happens. your gonna get a boner ever time you see her it means your happy or she is just that good. my girlfriend and i always lay on the bed together and cuddle, i always find myself getting an erection. its cause her warmth or something just think of wrinkly knees that helps me.

[utopia82]

Hi Drew,

I was reading through the advice that people have given you and I just wanted to put in my 2 cents.

I applaud you respecting her decision on waiting on sex, but no need for you to hide or feel embarassed about an erection because your girlfriend isn't ready for sex. Your body will do things you don't want it to do whether its farting unexpectedily or having an erection. From my experience, my boyfriend is always getting an erection from the slighest bump into me or even watching me eat a banana. In his defense...he says he can't help it. Which is true as men think more about sex than woman. That doesn't mean men are perverts, lol.

As far as trying to get rid of the erection, maybe you can masterbate before hanging out with her to help minimize the tension. Thats the only thing I can think of. But in all seriousness..don't be embarassed!

[st.paul in st.paul]

I used to be worried about the same thing, and I was embarrassed that I had one all the time around her. However, over time, I learned not to be embarrassed. Its natural and a sign of good health, you should be proud. I find myself getting erections just thinking of having sex with my girlfriend, let alone just looking at her. I think your girlfriend should be flattered. I used to think that my girlfriend would not like it when I get hard, but she tells me that she thinks it is very very attractive when I do get one. Think of it this way: Men think it is very hot when their wives/ girlfriends get wet for them. The same goes for women, they like it when we get hard. I understand that there are inopportune times to have an erection around your girlfriend, like shopping, at her parents house for dinner, or public places in general, just get your mind to think about something else besides sex. I usual count and I can control it the majority of the time.

[willywonka]

It's perfectly normal. Don't fret. Having such reaction to physical interaction with the other sex is very common even with guys who are no longer virgins. Trust me on that. Just don't try to get off everytime you get an interaction with barely cuddling with her or stuff like that.