She doesn't seem Interested

[That Guy]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. It was always going so great between us until somewhat recently. I can never see her, and when I do, it is most of the time a heartbreaking experience. She never seems interested in me, and usually denies me when I attempt to kiss her. But then again, she used to always deny my kisses back then, and she still does now. Most of the time when I try to sit next to her, she always tells me that there are other places in the room where I can sit, but we never even see each other for weeks to months. She breaks my heart almost every time I see her, because I feel as if she doesn't love me, or never did. Sometimes I think shes not dumping me because I feel that she is trying to spare my feelings. We almost broke up about 5 times, because she tells me she has "Mixed Emotions". I do everything I can in the world for her. I've given her my heart, and there was never a moment in my life where I treated her like dirt on the road. Every time I drop her off at her house or we part ways, I feel as if my heart shattered into a million pieces. Honestly, she is my first girlfriend, and I always feel if I loose her, I can never get another. But the thing is, I've never met a girl with her type of personality. But the way she treats me kills me inside. I've always been dumped or denied by girls in the past, and shes the one girl to accept me. But even now, she is denying me, and just putting me aside. I do everything I can to make her happy, because I care more for happiness than mine. But I don't want to loose her because my heart can't take it.

[Xero]

Your going to have to tell her how you feel about this. It shouldn't be like this this far in the relationship. Sit down with her in person and talk about what she does and how it makes you feel.

She should also explain why she is so distant with you. Obviously something is amiss. If you don't see change or shes not understanding then shes not for you. There are many other girls out there that would treat you 10x better.

It's very simple to get there as well just treat a girl with respect and kindness. I mean after like my 3rd-4th date me and my girlfriend always sat next to each other with arms locked or holding hands.

Hopefully this helps.

[YourEternalRest]

Your post already shows that you have some doubt in your relationship. That alone shows that the relationship isn't going smoothly. You're clinging onto somebody who doesn't share the same feelings for you as you have for her. The longer you drag this out, the more painful it will be for you.

[That Guy]

Okay... so basically today I tried to have a nice talk with her... but then she told me that she was "trying" to make it work but couldn't. I had told her that she wasn't even trying by completly avoiding even touching me. We starting to talk just little more until the point where I couldn't take it anymore. Thats when I just said to her "Well I guess I just can't make you happy" and then walked off. I didn't speak for her for the rest of the day. But on this seperate website we usually both go to, she left me a PM asking me for forgiveness. I'm not sure if she even wants to get back with me because she said "Can we talk, at least as friends" but then at the end of the message she said "You don't know what you will miss until its gone". I don't even know if she wants to get back together. I is unbelievably hard to let her go, and I do really want to be with her but I just can't go back unless she doesn't just pretend to love me, and actually show her affection towards me. I just don't want to be alone all over again.

[Xero]

Alright, my solution would be to at least go and talk to her in person. See what she has to say. She might be really hurt and actually feel something now. Then again she might now. It's at least better to close up wounds rather than to burn the bridges that are there.

If you can't have the decency to at least be friends, then the next girl might not see you as good as a person. (if you do actually end it after the next time you see her).

So at least make an attempt to see what she has to say. Say what you have to say and leave on a good note, or stay to gather and work for a better future.

She might change and show affection you never know. (this again her realizing she does care) talk to her and see what happens. Things might change for the better, the worst is your out a girlfriend. But there are many more.

Hopefully this helps. It might not be clear so just ask if its not.

[That Guy]

Alright... today I had a talk with her, and we pretty much made up and everything. And she started showing a small bit of affection again. But i'm almost certain that this "Mixed Emotion" thing will happen again in the future. I told her that everyone will have doubts about anything, even relationships. Either way, I don't think she will take my advice... she does sometimes, but not when it comes to our relationship.

[Xero]

See how things go for awhile. If they don't seem to improve over a month or so I would give up by then.

It sometimes takes time.